She has just quit out of the blue.

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Childminder provides after school care for DS. There have been ongoing issues with her since day one (unreliable, calling in sick at least once a month, random and incorrect billing..) but DS loves her and is close friends with her DC who attend his school so I continued with her.

I started a thread a while ago as she left her husband for another man, a school run dad, and in the ensuing chaos she lost several mindees as parents were concerned with the upheaval in her personal life and the fact she planned to look after the children in a new, unregulated setting (the new boyfriends house!) although she assured everyone it would be inspected. Eventually she went back to her husband and I foolishly resumed working with her. Now she has sent me a brief message to say she is going away for a few weeks, sorry about that and she’ll let me know when she’s back. I’m just fuming but there isn’t much I can do. I do have a contract with her but don’t suppose there’s anything enforceable on it. Urgggh. I will have to see if the ASC has any availability. DP is over the moon as he has never been happy with her for various reasons but he’s not the one who now has to scramble and find a replacement care.

Why doesn't your DP have to scramble to help find asc?

She hasn't quit though she's just cancelled for a few weeks last minute which is obviously unreasonable and unprofessional. I'd be looking to continue with asc when she's so unreliable.

Maybe she found out your were posting her business online and felt she has no loyalty to you?

I was posting for advice as she was planning to run a business caring for children in a home that had not been inspected by Ofsted whilst living with a man who had not undergone any checks. So no, I don’t give a fuck about posting her personal affairs online when she’s potentially putting children at risk.

He’s useless. I don’t know what else to say.

OP hasn’t named her business or her, but is justifiably fed up by the child care arrangements falling through at short notice, because of the unreliability of someone who is supposedly running a business caring for children.

sounds like you should get rid of him as well as the childminder.

At best she sounded flaky. Try and get after school club. Whatever you do, don’t go back to her, that’s asking for trouble.

Why would you post gossip about her?

He's DC's parent, no? Therefore he has to get on with it. There is nothing like strategic incompetence to get you out of chores if women passively go along with it, and write men and their responsibilities off Do you want control of the situation?

Sounds like karma. You gossip about her, she dicks you over. It’s a one-all draw for AITA here.

If she truely liked her job she wouldn’t have been late, unreliable, and all the other things you mention but she was so maybe it’s you as her employer who needs to be honest on how you treated her

I'd change childminder now.

Ofsted don't check new homes when you move, you just update them of the new address and the send a.new certificate. Premises would be checked at the next inspection.

New people living in the home will undergo a DBS and have details held on the system. Clearly this won't be instant but as long as the adult isn't left alone with the children then they can continue to work until it comes through.

How many weeks notice do you have to give? Give her notice now or you risk being in breach of contract.

Childminders are self-employed so I was not her employer. HTH

Oh ok. So if a CM suddenly moves from her place of work into a random house with an adult male and his adult son, neither of whom have been CRB checked, it’s all good? Don’t be ridiculous. It doesn’t matter if they are left alone with the children or not. Would you leave a small child in a situation like that? A house you haven’t seen before with strange men? Actually don’t answer, I fear I already know the answer.

People on this thread more concerned about ‘karma’ and ‘gossip’ than this woman’s reckless behaviour (drip feed: she went back to her DH as her new boyfriend turned out to have some very disturbing habits). State of MN sometimes🙄

Surely she is in breach by virtue of the fact she has stopped working without notice and has not even given me a return date?

I’ve just messaged the mum of one her other mindees and she in tears as she now has no childcare for next week.

I'm a childminder, I'm just letting you know the procedure. I can't help it if you don't like it.

Given the way you answer on here, I'm not surprised she's dumped you.

Good grief MN is weird.
Sounds like you're better rid of her OP. Hope you can find a place soon.

And yet here you are complaining because she's dropped you in it.

Why are people being so hostile towards OP ? She is the one who has been let down by CM .