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Friend becoming bit too pushy

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Newyorklady · 16/04/2025 13:01

I have built up a lovely friendship group, and I really enjoy their company.
Met them at dc school and known them for years as dc grew up together and are now young adults. DC still all close friends.
As dc now adults how often we meet up has increased. We’ve holidayed together as a group which was lovely, and I enjoyed their company time we spent. Nice group no nasty bitchy comments, all very nice.
However, it’s almost become too much for me now as the invites/ messsges particularly from one friend is almost weekly or several times a week. Asking if I want to meet up this weekend etc.
I have a busy life due to work commitments and am happily married so value time with my husband.
whilst I am happy to socialise once or twice a month this is enough for me.
i don’t want to go to the pub every week with these friends.
I’ve been making the odd excuse however one friend is particularly pushy and will keep asking even if I make my excuse I get messages when they are out asking me to join,
I feel guilty writing this as I enjoy their company and feel blessed to have such a good group of friends who I know enjoy my company but I feel I need to cut this back as it’s just becoming too
much.
How can I let them know without ruining the friendship ?

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Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 16/04/2025 13:09

Could you message you have other commitments which limit your availability to a couple of meet ups a month and you'd love to come along to those? Then you're making it clear you can't do everything, but want to be involved.

Change your settings in WhatsApp show your status doesn't show/they don't know when you read messages then you can reply after the event to say you didn't see the message/were busy doing X and have only just seen it in order to manage things.

Maitri108 · 16/04/2025 13:27

I assume this 'pushy' friend is just including you in group invites.

I'm not sure what the solution is if you don't want to be invited because if she stops inviting you, you won't hear of things you may want to go to.

You could put her on mute and read her messages when you have the time then respond to the ones you want to go to.

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