I’m never offended, but….

[CurlewKate]

I am frequently outraged, pissed off, angry, exasperated by people’s language and behavior. So why has “offended” become the word we use? It sounds so passive and almost prissy. In a recent thread about using the word “cunt” for example. I’m not remotely offended by it. I am angry and exasperated that people use it without giving any thought to its history. But any negative feeling can now be boiled down to being offended-which can then easily be dismissed as being over sensitive or a “pearl clutcher” or the classic “If you’re offended, just don’t buy the gollywog”.

@housethatbuiltme
“Being offended over the use of the word 'offended' (even though it’s used perfectly correctly) is delightful pearl clutching ignorance though.”

As my brother used to say “Better to overthink than to underthink”🤣

I guess “offended” does infer a personal element to it which is absent in angry or exasperated. So there is a bit of a difference between them. But I don’t think it’s hugely different to the other adjectives you have used.

@CurlewKate triggered is another word that annoys me! why are there so many weak minded people around. some people nowadays are so easily offended! get some gumption!!

My mother was regularly ‘disgusted’ by something or other. Me, not so much.

Well, they actually are just words though, regardless of how offensive.

But still, I wouldn’t be offended by the use of them, again unless it felt like a personal attack on me. Would I like and approve? No, obviously not. But offended feels personal to me.

better is to say - i'd call you a cunt/twat (either) but tbh, you lack the warmth and depth.."

Oh that would annoy me it’s basically saying sorry this is your problem.

I hate “don’t be THAT parent” it’s so dismissive