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Feeling hurt.

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Athrowaway57 · 14/04/2025 19:49

This sounds so stupid but I cant get it out of my head. So i thought maybe if I say it loud I can leave it behinde. It's probably a very small thing but it felt really hurtful . But im also angry with myself because I always promise myself I would never ever let anything horrible effect me.

They said. She's the sort of family that if I saw her and her kids I would cross the road . It was said about me on social media. Not to me.

I remember many years ago. I was 16 or 17 and I was working in a shop. And the manager said to a small group of us . My nan can work better than you and she's dead that has never left me. I dont know why really.

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CalicoPusscat · 14/04/2025 20:28

That is a hurtful thing to say to anyone, no wonder you're upset @Athrowaway57.

Leave it behind you now. You move on. People can say stupid and cruel things at times. It's a reflection on them, not you.

Athrowaway57 · 14/04/2025 20:49

CalicoPusscat · 14/04/2025 20:28

That is a hurtful thing to say to anyone, no wonder you're upset @Athrowaway57.

Leave it behind you now. You move on. People can say stupid and cruel things at times. It's a reflection on them, not you.

Thanks. Yes logically i know. It's just I never ever understand why people are like that . Not to me but even generally. I mean do they feel good saying them sort of things. I guess there's not really an answer.

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NameChangedOfc · 14/04/2025 21:23

I'm sorry, OP 🙏 Those are hurtful things to say/hear about you and I'm sorry they wounded you. Remember that you are loved and count your blessings. People who hurt others are usually hurting themselves (not a justification, but a fact). You don't have to carry their burden: leave it with them and move on 💐

Thatcat · 14/04/2025 21:27

Those horrid things are someone else’s shame, which they’re trying to land on you for you to hold it. Don’t hold it. It’s not yours.

OldCottageGreenhouse · 14/04/2025 21:46

This was “many years ago” and you’re still hurt by it now?

Athrowaway57 · 14/04/2025 21:58

OldCottageGreenhouse · 14/04/2025 21:46

This was “many years ago” and you’re still hurt by it now?

No its just something I have never forgot being said. Probably because I have been told I'm stupid most of my life. I don't think about it constantly it just made me reflect because of the recent thing that was said.

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Athrowaway57 · 15/04/2025 09:23

Thatcat · 14/04/2025 21:27

Those horrid things are someone else’s shame, which they’re trying to land on you for you to hold it. Don’t hold it. It’s not yours.

Thankyou . I don't know why i let it bother me so much . The person doesn't even actually truly know me. So I don't know why I let it bother me . Maybe hormones or something.

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Thatcat · 15/04/2025 09:28

It’s human nature. We all do it. And we all do it to each other.

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