Husband abusive and some of his family joined in

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Husband has been abusive. I would have thought his family would try to stop him (it has been very overt and attracted outside attention). But the mother enables it and one sister (middle-aged, never left home, MH issues) actively encourages him.

Working on a divorce, but difficult as he is very unstable.

I am just so shocked a family can witness appalling aggression to a GC, know a wife has been harmed, yet not seem to care and actively lie. It is like they punish us for being abused.

How does it work. Are they afraid? Did they enable this/did something go very wrong in the upbringing? There are significant MH problems with SIL (diagnosed) and DH was fine until his was triggered. Have they just got used to trying to cover up the MH issues of the sister so want to pretend all is normal/can't face another sibling spiralling?

I see a lot of discussion of domestic violence, but not the wider context.

Terrible, unfortunately some people are enablers. Sorry, you need to leave him!

There could be any number of reasons but it doesn't really matter. If they are encouraging abuse and not intervening when they witness abuse, especially to children, then they are not safe to be around.

I am working on leaving. Terrified of any possibility of any shared custody. Stayed when DC was younger literally to make sure they were not alone with these people.

The lies from my husband are terrifying. Thankful for mobile phones to be able to record. Kicking myself for not realising sooner and getting some of the worst of it.