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Does anyone else unintentionally self sabotage when it comes to nice things for yourself?

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bluebunnyjacket · 14/04/2025 18:13

I have always found myself doing it. I cannot cope with nice attention. Examples would be if it's a birthday of mine coming up and people offer to do nice things with me, I just cannot bring myself to say yes. I would rather sit in not doing anything than have a fuss made.

It was Mother's Day recently and my partner hadn't had time to get me a card. He said he'd go in the evening but rather than letting him I bought my own card before he had a chance because the thought of him going to get me something made me feel so weird.

I was like it with my engagement. I sensed it was coming and on the run up I did everything like I say I felt poorly, try to ignore every opening available for the proposal as I couldn't cope with the nice thing happening.

It's a big birthday coming up and I'm dreading it and thinking of how I can play it down to avoid anybody doing anything nice. Does this make me sound awful? I can't explain why I do it.

OP posts:
ChaosDream · 14/04/2025 22:13

Are you very shy? I don’t like being the centre of attention and try to avoid it. That said, I’m happy for a low key celebration ☺️

fatgirlswims · 14/04/2025 22:21

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