I feel DP asks me where things are, or enrols me in minor undertakings, much more frequently than I ask the same kinds of things of him. Like much more often, several times a day. Irrespective of what I'm doing at the time.
Typical examples:
"Have you seen my glasses?"
"I'm popping to the shops. Can you just get the rice on and get the veggies prepped while I'm out?" (while he's preparing the main part of the meal)
"Can you take a look at this email I'm about to send to X?"
On their own, these requests don't seem like much but they punctuate my day. Obviously, I can -and do- tell him to sort himself out if I'm busy but I wish he'd filter a bit before chirping from another room: "Heeey, have you seen the forecast for this afternoon?".
I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I've asked him similar things since the start of the year. I just don't need to, and I don't think DP strictly needs to either, it's just a habit, a kind of relational filler. I feel perhaps I should feel kinder about it as it's maybe a kind of contact seeking.
We're having time off during the DC's holidays and it's starting to grate, so I've made a poll: Does your partner or spouse ask you where things are or engage you in inconsequential 'projects' more than you ask similar things of them or are you fairly equal in this regard?