How do I know / decide whether to end a friendship of nearly 19 years?

[sunshineandstarsgirl]

If I write here exactly what happened in my friendship with this lady, I am 100% sure every single one of you will tell me to end the friendship. But, too much to write here.

Summary of our friendship: She is there for me when things are bad in my life. But, gets jealous when ANYTHING good happens to me. She is insecure about her physical looks: so that could be a reason. But, as far as I know, she has a supportive husband and children. She has a great job.

Most times, I feel like ending the friendship. But, sometimes I think she knows so much about me- it would be easier to keep her in my life. I mean, I don't have to go out and make new friends if I have her.

She has given me some crappy advice/suggestions in the past which I followed without questioning and as a result, messed things up for me BIG TIME.

Sometimes, I think I hate her as I am filled with anger towards some of the things she said to me and how she spoke to me.

What should I do?

Don’t be her bloody friend then! Seriously grow up!

4-5 years ago, I had a slim figure. She told me I looked anorexic and for me to eat something and put on weight. And her tone changes when she says things out of jealousy. She sounds exasperated.

This is harsh. You don’t know what any poster’s personal circumstances are or what they have going on. For example, people with anxiety, trauma, ASD etc may have trouble seeing when they’re being treated poorly by people and ruminate on certain situations.

How can you hate a friend

just ghost her

I get that but you don’t stay friends with someone for 19 years if they treat you like shit and refer to them as a a cow!

Ignore the advice from the cowards to ghost her. It’s healthier (and the adult thing to do) to talk to her about how you feel.

Oh please. You sound like you’ve been using her the entire time to offload all of your problems to. I very much doubt that she’s jealous of you 😅

This 100 percent. OP sounds like the problem person here.