For women who are rocking their 40s and beyond

[Disturbia81]

There’s so many threads on here where women talk so negatively about being 40s and beyond, even seen a few in mid 30s talking negatively about themselves. How youth is everything, how they are past it, how they feel invisible.
So I just wanted to start a positive thread about this time in our lives to try and combat some of the stereotypes and make each other feel good.

I feel more confident than I ever have
Kids are older
I know myself so well
I spend my time better
I love my looks more than I ever have
Love clothes more
I’m kickass at my job (low paid but ah well)
I get more attention from both men and women
I feel more visible and more like a proper adult
Sex is better
Get asked out more
I care more about people but give less of a fuck what people think of me
I know what’s important in life after losing several people
Physically fitter than I’ve ever been
Inner peace and acceptance

Anyone else!? 🖤

Glad you are loving your 50s ♥️

Yes!

It’s crazy how happy or comfortable you become with your own company. It doesn’t suck. I am married but love spending time on my own. In the past, it would have made me very insecure and unhappy. Constantly craving the company of others has disappeared.

So true.. When we love our own company we will never be bored. I am constantly chatting to myself 🤣

Yes that’s another one!
-feel happy going to gigs, cafes, cinema, nights out etc by myself instead of needing anyone to be with me, goes back to the confidence and not giving any fucks!

I’ve always loved cinema, lunches, and other things on my own but now I’ve added holidays to my list. For me travelling on my own is the ultimate self indulgent experience.

Love it, I’ve not done that yet but hope to one day. I bet it’s lovely not having to cater to anyone elses needs and wants and being able to truly relax..

I’m not enjoying my late 40s one bit, I’ve had bereavement after bereavement including dh and mum. I’ve had so many health problems too, and I’m currently navigating life with traumatised teens. I’m skint, and my face is haggard and I look ill.
its so shit.

But I am trying to change things. I’m exercising a lot more, I’ve done 3 park runs (or walk 😂) trying to eat more healthy and I want to build muscle now.

I don’t have a social life at all, I’ve no one to go with, the couple of friends I do have are either wrapped up in their husbands, more damaged than I am with far more problems, or have their own well established circle of friends, but I am close to my dc and my ds is now 25 with kids and we do nothing but laugh when we see each other.

I do not give a fuck these days, I’m secure in my own skin, and I have no desire for conflict or listen to bullshit. So there’s that 😂

I’m 40 this year and feeling a little apprehensive about it. It feels like I should be a proper adult and I just don’t feel ready for that!

that said. I’m fitter than I’ve ever been and down to a dress size I haven’t been since my teens. Doing so much exercise has also done wonders for my mental health so I’m heading into my 40s in a good place. Just hope it stays that way. This thread is giving me hope.

Aww I’m glad I started it then 😊
I never liked exercise but ramped it up at 40 and one of my favourite outcomes is how I feel mentally so I get you.

Sorry for all you’ve been through 💐losing people really takes its toll. I lost both parents and all siblings in my late 30s early 40s, and a close friend recently so I can somewhat relate. I think it’s partly whats made me so “fuck it, I’m gonna enjoy this”
I’m glad you still have happy moments, sending you good vibes 🖤

That's my experience too. I am keeping my fingers crossed it lasts!