If your child went off to uni, did they return home at the end of it ?

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After graduating ?

One did, one didn't.

The one who didn't, got a job at the Uni and still works there now, 11 years later.

Ds1 went into an internship straight after uni which came with a flat. When that ended and he moved into another practice, he moved home to save for a mortgage.

I did. Moved back in for about a year or so until I moved in with my now DH.

she lived away for 4 years them came back. Still living with me 6 years later

Exactly.
Mine is only in his first year, but I'm very much aware he'll never live here again...we live quite rurally and he's likely to work in a corporate environment - and that will mean working in a city somewhere. (Hopefully he'll visit regularly - currently he enjoys coming back from uni for his 'country walk fix ').

Not a parent but I am the child that never went back. I didn't even go back for the holidays. Parents lived in a tiny village. 2 busses to get anywhere even slightly interesting. Not to mention they redecorated my room as a guest room within months of being moving out.

Ds is off to uni this year, he will spend the third year on an industry placement which he’s hoping to do abroad and then back to uni for 4th year. His plan is to then come home and do a post graduate degree apprenticeship for a further year and then move out. He’s going to reinvest his child trust fund and hopes to add to it from his earnings during post grad to save for a deposit on a property

I went back to my parents’ for 6 months after uni (and left a pile of stuff in their garage for about a decade 😂), but I never lived at home again after that. DSis stayed at home until her early 20s.

One of mine got a job and a serious GF in his uni city and has never come home; the other is still at college but there’ll be a room for her at home if she needs it.

I’m very happy eldest has successfully ‘launched’, but feel sad he’ll never live with us again. It was a bit of an adjustment for all of us, as we really enjoy living/holidaying & just generally spending time together and his GF has become part of the family, so in a way it’s a shame we didn’t get to live communally for a bit because I think it would have been fun.

I came back from uni and lived with my parents for 6 months before moving out forever. Needed a place to get on my feet and be supported through finding a graduate job.

DS: Graduated, came home and did a Masters, then did a PhD, came home because he got a Post Doc. Got a flat, got married, relocated.

DD: Graduated, came home, did a teaching qualification, is now 26 and her BF is fully qualified and has a flat. She spends about 4 nights at his and 3 here.

DH and I both left home at 18 and never returned. Our homes were beyond London commutable and our careers were London centric.

DS has stayed in his uni city and I don’t blame him at all. He might move home later this year to save to go travelling

DD1 went straight to a PhD at the same uni. She submitted her thesis earlier this month and now has a job at the uni starting in June. She has only been home briefly since starting the PhD. DD2 came home after graduating last summer. She worked for around 8 weeks in a cafe before getting a graduate job 160 miles away and didn't even make it home for Christmas as she was on shift on Christmas Day.

I don’t have kids but when I graduated I only stayed at my parents’ house for a couple of months before I left home for good. I never went back, even when I was fleeing domestic violence. My siblings didn’t go to university but my brother left home at 18. My sister stayed until 23 and then returned at 24, with her husband in tow.

No.

Dd1 graduated then moved to the other end of the country where she is now working.

I sort of moved back home. I mean I did to my home town but my parents had moved back to where we originate from in my first year of uni. I spent my holidays there but when I graduated there was no way I was going back there to live with them.