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Elderly neighbour shouts over fence..

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Dilysthemilk · 12/04/2025 00:26

Our elderly neighbours have always been a bit, well odd. A few years ago the husband was in the road shouting at a parking warden and calling him a monkey (the warden was black) - awful - he knows I heard because I stopped to check on the warden and make sure he was ok. The husband hasn’t spoken/looked my way since! Last year my husband was chopping wood and the wife shouted over because the sound of the axe was annoying her - not in a polite/nice way in a ‘shut up the noise’ way. If anyone’s dog barks they start shouting ‘shut your dog up’. Today was I was spray painting something (we have high fences) and she started screaming that stinks, stop making that smell. (I was only doing it for less than 30 minutes - it was a very small side table!). It’s almost as if they think the world revolves around them and their needs, and whatever their needs are, in that moment, must be immediately attended to. We just ignore it, we try for the cheerful good morning’ if we see them out the front but no more than that, do not engage. I do have to admit that hoping they might move out at some point (they are in a big 4 bedroom house and are well in their 70’s. I know that’s mean but it’s also quite trying hearing the shouting. I think they have sort of forgotten they live in a busy city, on a road of 200 houses, attached, rather than on an acre plot in the country… it’s like they’ve lost their filter…

OP posts:
suburberphobe · 12/04/2025 00:30

I would ignore them totally for the fact they used racist abuse towards the parking warden. Sick fucks.

Dilysthemilk · 12/04/2025 00:34

It was horrible, I just have to keep hoping they move to a smaller house.. I do wonder if the wife is getting dementia with all the random shouting.. The other side of us is nice, they’ve also been shouted at and don’t speak to them either.

OP posts:
kanaka · 12/04/2025 00:37

It’s a bit more than having lost their filter. They sound like straight up nasty fuckers. I would ignore them.

ForCheeryHedgehog · 12/04/2025 00:37

Can you get an air horn and just use it every time someone shouts? Nothing else. Just a honk everytime.

lifeisgoodrightnow · 12/04/2025 13:42

I see you live next door to my in laws. Nothing will be good enough for these type of people . My mother in law even told neighbours when and how they should cut their hedges as ‘they can’t possibly be happy with them looking like THAT mess’. Things came to a head when they told the boys opposite off for shooting basketball hoops on the boys own driveway and father in law shook an angry fist at the boys . Cue their door and windows being egged. Didn’t stop their curtain twitching ridiculously self centred expectations though ( no mowing the grass on a weekend etc etc etc ).

ohnowwhatcanitbe · 12/04/2025 14:45

Develop selective deafness to their silly shouting.

MooMoo74 · 13/04/2025 15:28

Just ignore them. They sound very nasty

GCAcademic · 13/04/2025 15:31

ForCheeryHedgehog · 12/04/2025 00:37

Can you get an air horn and just use it every time someone shouts? Nothing else. Just a honk everytime.

Genius. 😂

Do this, OP.

Sulu17 · 13/04/2025 15:39

Exactly how elderly are they, OP? Hopefully, nature may take its course over the next few years...

AngelicKaty · 13/04/2025 15:43

@Dilysthemilk Well, their appalling behaviour will continue OP if none of their neighbours corrects them. The next time one of them shouts about some minor annoyance over your fence, just shout back "shut up the noise!" 😂

ItGhoul · 13/04/2025 15:47

They haven’t lost their filter; I guarantee you they’ve always been like this. Ignore them or tell them that if they shout at you again you’ll consider it harassment and will be speaking to the police. The incident with the traffic warden is all you need to know they’re not worth the shit off your shoes.

GlennCloseButNoCigar · 13/04/2025 15:50

You’re better than me, they would have had a swift F off shouted back if they started raising their voices at me. Weirdos

mickandrorty · 13/04/2025 16:02

ForCheeryHedgehog · 12/04/2025 00:37

Can you get an air horn and just use it every time someone shouts? Nothing else. Just a honk everytime.

Brilliant! This is it! no other suggestions needed 😂

Welshmonster · 13/04/2025 16:09

Tell them to wind their necks in. They could move and you get worse neighbours though!

purplehair1 · 13/04/2025 16:41

lifeisgoodrightnow · 12/04/2025 13:42

I see you live next door to my in laws. Nothing will be good enough for these type of people . My mother in law even told neighbours when and how they should cut their hedges as ‘they can’t possibly be happy with them looking like THAT mess’. Things came to a head when they told the boys opposite off for shooting basketball hoops on the boys own driveway and father in law shook an angry fist at the boys . Cue their door and windows being egged. Didn’t stop their curtain twitching ridiculously self centred expectations though ( no mowing the grass on a weekend etc etc etc ).

When does anyone have time to mow the lawn except on a weekend?

Manthide · 13/04/2025 17:06

It's so stressful when you have awful neighbours! We live in a lovely quiet cul de sac and everyone is very friendly but mostly keep to themselves except our immediate neighbours. I really wish they'd move, I don't think they're that old - early 70s at the most but the lady sends me horrible messages about our trees, our cooking etc saying how it affects her mental health etc. I think I'm a good neighbour but some people are just impossible. I've never mentioned their loud tv, constantly barking dogs or incessantly ringing telephone - or the very frequent diy (drilling).

Quacksalver · 13/04/2025 17:41

This time of year we're rudely reminded of awful neighbours, I was having vague thoughts about putting the house on the market this morning.

I like the honking horn idea pp had.

lifeisgoodrightnow · 13/04/2025 18:20

purplehair1 · 13/04/2025 16:41

When does anyone have time to mow the lawn except on a weekend?

Tell me about it. She was impossible.

Casperroonie · 13/04/2025 19:51

mickandrorty · 13/04/2025 16:02

Brilliant! This is it! no other suggestions needed 😂

Please do this, it's genius.

TwinklySquid · 16/04/2025 09:25

ForCheeryHedgehog · 12/04/2025 00:37

Can you get an air horn and just use it every time someone shouts? Nothing else. Just a honk everytime.

You need to make sure you follow up with a stern “no” so they associate the horn with bad behaviour 😂

But seriously OP, just ignore them. Nothing will be good enough for them.

PinkPonyClubber · 16/04/2025 10:28

I grew up with a woman next door who mowed her lawn every day and regularly hoovered her drive.
She constantly complained about us as we had a large tree and the leaves would blow onto her property. Except it wasn’t just our tree there were loads of trees about, but she wanted ours chopped down.
Can’t win with people like this, I’m sure it’s also a form of control.

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