I hate my lovely present

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In ‘diamond shoes are too tight’ news… I’ve been given an iPhone for my birthday and I hate it. How long does it take to get used to this??

I was always Android but did have a few whinges about my battered handset. So I really really can’t blame dp for wanting to lead me into the shiny Apple world. But lots of things I used to do on my android dont seem to work on the iPhone. And in general it’s so different. And (admittedly not the phones fault) I have lost my entire WhatsApp history including a lot of photos and am gutted.

tell me it gets easier

No.

Bollocks

Can you delete the WA app on new phone, go back to old phone and back it up (in settings or similar if I recall as mine was not set up to back up automatically to my surprise so had to do it manually when I got a new phone recently), wait for it to do that whch can take some time and then again download WA on your new phone.

It was a bit shitty of him to do that.

I find people are either iPhone or android fans and can’t flick between both. Tell him that this phone doesn’t work for you and you’d like to swap it for an android.

Heh - I had an Ipad for several years - it was good in its own way but limiting because Apple are so precious with their software. Android is way more versatile.
If you are a complete amateur with computer s.oftware then the Ipad is perfect, otherwise it is very, very frustrating IMHO

I had an iPod before iPhones and iTunes was such a frustrating bit of software on my PC that I swore I would never get an iPhone and got a Samsung as my first smart phone and loved them ever since.

One time I got a work iPhone and it annoyed the shit out of me so much that on the next upgrade I asked for an android again. The iPhone was so restrictive and basic and there was so much it just didn't do! And the touch screen was a piece of shit compared with the equivalent Samsung.

OP I wish I could say yes. I was given one by a neighbour, about 8 years ago when my android broke. It was painful I lasted 3 days - visited my parents, rummaged about in the loft, pulled out my dads old Motorola razer with charger (thing still worked) used that till I got a new android. Old decrepit technology was better than no back button 😅
Can you watch some YouTube videos or borrow a child that can tutor you for a bit 😂
Sorry I'm not much help

Oh no 😭😭 well at least I feel a bit validated. I was expecting to be told to give it 5 days and I’d never look back!

I don’t think there’s any going back, dp has spent a fortune on this and would be personally hurt if I reject it because he’s a total Apple fanboy BUT thank you very very much about the WhatsApp tip. If I can get my data back there I’ll feel a lot more cheerful.

Just going to add - Apple chargers. WTAF.

It wasn't really a lovely gift though, was it? A lovely gift would be a sparkly new phone that he knew you'd like. Instead he thinks he knows best and has used your birthday as an opportunity to educate you.

Not educate me exactly… just that he really thinks I will like this better because he loves his so much. He wants me to be happy…

I switched from Android to Apple and after a few days I was fine! The only thing I miss about my android is the alarm clock used to tell me how many hours sleep I would get from when I set it to when it went off and I used to kid myself I would actually get 8 hours.

Not educate me exactly… just that he really thinks I will like this better because he loves his so much. He wants me to be happy

But he's ignored the fact that making you happy would involve buying a phone you want

I'd be quite pissed off with that gift tbh. He knows you're not an apple fan but because he is he's forcing his choice on you.

I'd sell it & buy a phone that I actually wanted

I would LTB, and I'm not joking. Being an apple fan boy in this day and age is basically admitting you're a technology dullard, and a sucker to boot.

Also, supporting USA business right now is 🤮

THIS with bells on.

A friend of mine bought me VERY expensive high end designer bag for my birthday.

It's not this as don't want to be outing and hurt her feelings if she's on here, but think Black Chanel Lambskin Bag.

The exact same one she uses every day. I felt terrible as it was insanely expensive (I can never repay this) and, unfortunately I really don't like it and wouldn't never have wanted one myself. She believes it's the sort of item "everyone should own and it's a classic you can't go wrong with."

But it's just not my style at all and, if I'm honest, it makes me feel sad (completely irrational!). It's so funereal and boring and, worst of all, I feel gives the impression I am more materialistic and wealthy that I am. It makes me feel like a fraud. I miss using my sweet little £25 from TK Maxx colourful "everyday" bag that my lovely Mum bought me as a gift. It was more "me".

Yet this friend bought me it to use everyday and will be insulted if I don't as it's not just that I don't like her gift...it's like I'm saying I don't like her personal style (I don't, as it happens...I'm more artsy and bohemian). So awkward. If I had refused it she would have been extremely offended.

I never voiced my opinion to anyone until my sister said, "I hate the way Carla buys you gifts which are the things SHE likes and tries to change your style to what SHE thinks is stylish. Who the F does she think she is? You're YOU not a clone of her!" This was after she'd bought me another Black classic funeral style item intended for everyday use as a gift on a different birthday. It made me realise that it was ok to not be over the moon about a gift that, although well meant, wasn't appropriate or all that thoughtful. Some people can't get past themselves and think that everyone likes what they like. Kind and generous but not able to understand personal taste.

I think you should be able to say you're not managing with the iPhone to your DH and is there anyway you could return or swap it. I couldn't get on with a Samsung after years of iPhone use. They're a bit like cars, some you just can't get used to and never feel right.

I was always an android girl… then I got iPhones for work about 7 years ago… and I will never go back. iPhones are so much more user friendly once you get into the swing of them, a lot more intuitive and the UX is just streets ahead of any android. Give it time!

He wants me to be happy…

He'll swap it back to an Android then 👍

After having Samsung for years and years, last year I finally switched to an iPhone because we already had an iPad and it was annoying to transfer stuff between. I hated it at first but now love it and definitely wouldn’t go back.

Be honest with him, tell him how much you appreciate his effort to make you happy but you just aren't liking this present and prefer an android.

My wife got me a mixer for Christmas. She was confused, I had mentioned once I wanted a food processor. I told her the truth but how much I loved her thoughtfulness. The mixer went back and the money she spent bought a food processor and a 3 tier steamer. I love both and use the food processor everyday. I told her she still got them for me!

By the by, but get Google photos installed and get every photo automatically backed up.

You have to go through and delete lots of rubbish but you won't lose anything

The problem is that the Android vs Apple question is subjective and a question of personal preference. There's no right or wrong. So it's actually quite rude of him to assume his preference is the correct one and that he is a better judge of what phone you'll like than you are yourself.

It's different to, say, buying someone a really good pair of hair straighteners to replace some cheap shitty ones, where you can be confident that the new ones are objectively better. (I don't use straightners so I don't know if that's a good example or not, but you get my point).

Yes this, but I use Amazon photos. I don’t get the iCloud at all. Deleting a photo from my phone deletes it from the cloud?! Who the hell came up with that idea. I don’t want it in my phone because of storage but I want to keep it safe ffs.

You can find some good trade in deals. The new Pixels have great ones.

I hate Apple, cannot use the bloody things, My son is the same. Tried, failed. Now back to Android, Sorry!

You have to download WA on your iphone, then tell your WA that your new phone is THE major phone by logging into the old phone WA settings, then it should work fine.

Sorry to go against the grain but this was me many years ago .. a massive Nokia fan until they ruined it
Husband had I phone I would look at it in disgust - finally gave in and got one when they were on about I phone 6 I think - within a week I was a convert and never went back