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Pissed off. know i have no right though.

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Happyhappy2025 · 09/04/2025 21:11

Kids go to their dad's every other weekend. He's a Disney dad . Does all the fun bits. Never ever says no to them. He's much more fun etc.

Money is a bit short. Plus a birthday coming up so was trying to do cheap /free stuff . I get 2 free cinema tickets from sky . So I thought me and 3 kids can go to the cinema and see minecraft seems to be the only one that's right for them. But nope he's booked it for 2 weeks time. So now I can't do that with them.

I know I'm being petty. It just pisses me off.

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TwentyTwentyFive · 10/04/2025 10:15

Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:09

I do feel a bit like that . But I also don't want to cause bad feeling

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I think you're being too considerate of his feelings to be honest. He wouldn't care that you have tickets so I'd just crack on and go watch the film.

bettydavieseyes · 10/04/2025 10:22

Tell your ex all of this stuff and see if he can change his plans. This makes the most sense to me.

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:29

bettydavieseyes · 10/04/2025 10:22

Tell your ex all of this stuff and see if he can change his plans. This makes the most sense to me.

No i feel like he may get a kick out of it. I'm not sure i may be wrong. But I don't want to risk giving him that satisfaction.

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:32

TwentyTwentyFive · 10/04/2025 10:15

I think you're being too considerate of his feelings to be honest. He wouldn't care that you have tickets so I'd just crack on and go watch the film.

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It just seems a bit bitchy

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TwentyTwentyFive · 10/04/2025 10:38

Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:32

It just seems a bit bitchy

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It's not bitchy to want to do stuff with your kids. Be honest would he be changing plans if it were the other way round?

Ironfloor269 · 10/04/2025 10:41

OP, what kind of relationship do you have with their dad? If amicable, can’t you have a chat and explain why you’d rather take them to the movie this time and maybe he can do another activity on 2 weeks?

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:45

TwentyTwentyFive · 10/04/2025 10:38

It's not bitchy to want to do stuff with your kids. Be honest would he be changing plans if it were the other way round?

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Probably not .

I was just trying to think of stuff to do . There's a fun fair not to far from me. It's the travelling type. I'm not sure of the cost though or how it works . Plus the big issue is someone was stabbed there the other day

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bettydavieseyes · 10/04/2025 10:47

Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:29

No i feel like he may get a kick out of it. I'm not sure i may be wrong. But I don't want to risk giving him that satisfaction.

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Ok understood. So word it differently. "I'm taking the DC to see Minecraft because I have 2 free tickets and I can't afford much else these hols, if you'd rather I didn't I'd be happy for you to take them out an extra day in the hols instead as we have too many free days and not enough activities otherwise'!

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 10:52

bettydavieseyes · 10/04/2025 10:47

Ok understood. So word it differently. "I'm taking the DC to see Minecraft because I have 2 free tickets and I can't afford much else these hols, if you'd rather I didn't I'd be happy for you to take them out an extra day in the hols instead as we have too many free days and not enough activities otherwise'!

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He's working so he won't take that. And he is having them extra days . Over the Easter weekend he's collecting Thursday after work . Then dropping the back Monday evening.

I know they have a family bbq and Easter egg hunt and celebrating ds birthday . Plus the cinema booked . I'm not sure what else.

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Ohnobackagain · 10/04/2025 10:56

@Happyhappy2025 you could take them to the fair during the day. Ask local FB groups how it works if not sure - you can post anonymously. Mostly these days you buy a bunch of tickets/credit or something similar. If the weather’s good it should be fun! You don’t have to go too mad - bit of candy floss, some games for youngsters and so on.

Winifredtabago · 10/04/2025 11:08

I know I'll probably sound old fashioned but growing up we did plenty things that didnt cost my mother anything. Going to parks, going on countryside walks, picnics, playing in the garden obviously. Take advantage of this lovely weather. On a rainy day you could go swimming.

Mamofboys5972 · 10/04/2025 11:17

Does their dad know about your financial situation, are yous in a good place relationship wise? I would be honest and say, the cinema is pretty much all you can afford because you get the free tickets and you really wanted to do something with the kids. Would he mind choosing another activity just this once so yous can both have quality time with DC.

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 11:23

Ohnobackagain · 10/04/2025 10:56

@Happyhappy2025 you could take them to the fair during the day. Ask local FB groups how it works if not sure - you can post anonymously. Mostly these days you buy a bunch of tickets/credit or something similar. If the weather’s good it should be fun! You don’t have to go too mad - bit of candy floss, some games for youngsters and so on.

I will see what i can find out. The circus is there to. The cheapest tickets are 60.00 for us all to go.

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 11:33

Mamofboys5972 · 10/04/2025 11:17

Does their dad know about your financial situation, are yous in a good place relationship wise? I would be honest and say, the cinema is pretty much all you can afford because you get the free tickets and you really wanted to do something with the kids. Would he mind choosing another activity just this once so yous can both have quality time with DC.

No he has a nasty streak to him. At one point he cut child maintenance in half saying his work hours had been cut . I found out that was not true.

Infront of the kids he's spoken about my income to his adult daughter. And he's told her I get loads of money. Which I don't.

Whilst he's on a good income. Pays his mum 200 a month for house keeping then the CM and that's it. I know I have been a hypocrite by just saying that .

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 12:16

Ohnobackagain · 10/04/2025 10:56

@Happyhappy2025 you could take them to the fair during the day. Ask local FB groups how it works if not sure - you can post anonymously. Mostly these days you buy a bunch of tickets/credit or something similar. If the weather’s good it should be fun! You don’t have to go too mad - bit of candy floss, some games for youngsters and so on.

I'm going to take then to the fair i think. Its says All rides are £2 each on April 8th, 10th, 15th, and 17th, excluding dodgems, booster, bungees, and activities. Probably more than the cinema to be honest. But i can sort it. Least we will be doing something fun.

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LazyArsedMagician · 10/04/2025 12:17

Angrymum22 · 09/04/2025 21:21

If it’s any consolation my DH 20 went to see Minecraft yesterday and said it was crap. He still plays Minecraft with the mates he went to see it with, all three are big rugby players but closet minecrafters. So at least you don’t have to sit through it.

...she's not going for her benefit or enjoyment of the film Confused

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Happyhappy2025 · 10/04/2025 18:36

We went to the fair in the end. Wasn't a good move if I'm honest. Kids enjoyed it that's the main thing.

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