This is a rant about boundaries. My DC is an adult now but when I split with her father there was never this sort of communication.
DP has 2 DC with his ex. Sometimes they fight, sometimes things are Ok. DP says he would rather have no contact with ex but he must as she is the mother of his children.
All fine for me, they have to coparent and that is important but why does she always call when the DC don’t comply with her wishes? When DC are with us, we don’t call and ask her how to deal with things.
So he tried to sort things over video call on Sunday evening.
Now I feel she is overstepping boundaries, she has an 8 month old with another man that lives with her and the DC.
Last night we were having dinner, first message, my dishwasher is leaking what can I do? Then another 20 messages as she must send after every sentence and not write a paragraph.
Then today, what screen-wash must I put in my car?
and then afterwards she writes that her unemployment benefit has been stopped. Is she fishing for help, financially and physically?
A few months ago she asked DP to find her a flat in our area.
It’s hard because she moved quite far away and DP can’t see the children as much as he would like because of different LA for school. I am trying to facilitate this with that I have flexible working hours and he is self employed - no work, no money.
She also turned up at the house 4 weeks ago because she was “passing by” when DP had the children. She said she wanted to see what changes I had made to the house - we don’t live together so no changes made by me. He has made changes himself but told her she wasn’t welcome in the house which I find fair.
We have all met up together and things have been pleasant most times, sometimes she makes a dig about my employment, I have a good job, and that I am the same age as her mum, but my DP is only 3 years younger than me.
Sorry I just don’t understand why some women behave this way, like their ex owes them something forever. She claims she can’t cope with her third child, but that was her decision and my DP would have full custody in a heartbeat.
Rant over