Please tell me if I’m out of order in my thinking
bith retired 67 he 70
So I started to feel not well since Thursday with a tight chest so just stayed around the house. Still managed to make tea though, fri felt wiped out so went for lie down afternoon whilst dp went out on his pedal bike, he warmed up chilli left overs and we had it for tea. Saturday takeout . Sunday we just had pie,potato veg (I made)
By Sunday evening I started with a loose flem cough from nowhere, I was awake most of the night coughing
This morning he said he’d filled a form in online for gp because in January we both had d community phenomena and my cough was very much like back then. Ok
I fell back to sleep for couple hours as I felt so lethargic .
He said he’d come to gp with me so I let him.
They got it messed up and asked would I come back at 4.30 to see gp again.
It get to the time for me to go and he says
“ what’s happening “
I said I’m going to doctors
I could tell by this face/actions he wasn’t coming this time (no problem)
So it’s his volunteering meeting tonight at 7.30
when I got back from gp at 5.10 he’d made his tea and washed up.
Adult son , has the same illness as me and has been of work and in bed all day
So I’ve now got to make 2 teas , whilst sorting it he’s upstairs getting ready.
He comes in lounge whilst I’m sitting eating tea and says
“I’m going to”
He knew how made I felt/was didn’t even offer to wash the dishes I’d put in the sink !
let alone “ do you want me to do some tea for you”
I feel whenever I’m poorly as long as he’s got something in for his tea he’s 😃
21 yrs living together, he still says to me
” I don’t know what you like to eat”
If I don’t know what I want from the shop at 10am he will just come back with the very basic and his tea for that night .
Yet if he’s ill or something is bothering him
he will still have his tea no matter what and I can be coughing my guts up and he’d turn round and say “ that tooth is still hurting me”
He doesn’t know how to cook(or doesn’t want to)
he will buy ready meal/takeaway curry and manages to do a cooked breakfast
Anyone else think if they were really poorly bed ridden how they would look after you ?
I had to remind him everyday I needed my must have medication last time I was ill !
I just want to scream at him sometimes
wake up think ! There no rush in him
sorry for going on , if you got this far that is