Am I doing well?

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Regarding being a mum. It's silly to ask. I constantly analyse my day at the end of the day and pick myself apart.

I have a 3yo and 1yo. Had a tough afternoon was very overstimulated and 3yo is in a stage of give me that right now or I'll have an almighty meltdown. Normal but just hard when I have to run after 1yo who is let me climb everything and If you move me I'll have an almighty meltdown lol

I apologised earlier because 3yo has regressed a bit with the potty and is invisting we carry him up to the loo (when he can walk up safely with us supervising) youngest was in highchair strapp3d downstairs waiting for some food (I didn't leave her with it of course) then insisted I carry him down then was like stop take me back up and I got annoyed and said no don't you know I have to give your sister her dinner

I said mummy's sorry , I can give her dinner in 1 minutes what did you want to show me. He was fine but I keep replaying my little snappy comment feeling awful

I constantly tell them I love them and eldest tells me back and I always do affirmations. Tell then their amazing qualities and even the other day at the park I said you can have an ice cream as a treat and my eldest said thank you mummy I've been a kind boy and I said yes you have as I always tell him this and it made my smile when I said treat he named a good quality about himself. At bedtime i say to both kids thank you for a lovely day together etc

Sometimes I get overwhelmed with being needed by 2 people at once and differing needs its getting easier as youngest gets older but sometimes I just feel like I can't give them both 100% and I try

Is their father on the scene? You don't mention him

I remember when my kids were young, it’s really really hard. Sounds like you are doing an amazing job though. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or beat yourself up. Some days will be exhausting and some days will be amazing. Enjoy the amazing parts and give yourself a pass for the occasional mum fail 🥰💐

Yeah. It's mainly.me alone with them due to his work

You're doing just fine, but you sound rather anxious if you need to come on here to seek reassurance that you're doing a good job. Do you know what's making you unsure if you ARE?

I have anxiety and i just want my kids to be healthy and happy so I over analyse everything so like today my snappy comment is analyse and think he thinks mymmy just gets annoyed with him and prioritises his sister (as i said I need to do her dinner etc) and worry how he feels after it

And i think because dh works away and long hours he comes back frazzled and just wants to see us i dont fancy my small amount t of time filled with me moaning and worrying to him

You are doing brilliantly.

Something to remember - it is a parent's job to say no sometimes, even if that means that your dc gets upset, cries, or has a screaming tantrum. They need to learn that no means no, and they can't always have what they want, when they want it. And that includes them demanding your attention.

You were being completely reasonable in saying no, and that you were busy doing something else, which happened to be feeding his sister.