Being the parent of a victim

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Just wondering if anyone has any experience of being the parent of a victim of crime.

last week was the start of my daughters sexual assault trial. She’s an adult now, but was under 18 when it happened, it’s taken a long time to come to court.

when I first found out what had happened, there were a lot of emotions and then over the last couple of years things have settled a little, my daughter is on an even keel and happy in her life again.

the court case seems to have almost hit harder than the initial revelation in some ways. I’m hearing lots of detail that I hadn’t heard before and watching my daughter give evidence and be cross examined was the single worst experience of my life. I found being totally neutral while sat in court almost impossible.

I know none of this is about me and that’s why in “real life” I’m trying my best to be everything my daughter needs. But I’m also falling apart too now and I wondered if anyone has been in a similar postion.

I think for a mother seeing their child suffer is worse than suffering yourself.
How is your daughter doing now? Its a good sign that she was doing well before the trial.
Has she been able to access some form of therapy since the trial starting?
It may be worth considering yourself too, especially if you're having any intrusive thoughts of "maybe I could have done this or that to avoid it" which could possibly be stopped through therapy.
Once the court case is over your daughter will hopefully feel some closure which may help you too.