Possible BPD, any advice available?

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Ds is 21 and at uni. He already has a diagnosis of autism, but there's something else going on and he feels it may be bpd. During his last crisis, I suspected bpd, but didn't say anything for fear of causing upset, but he's now agreed to talk to someone.

I do have experience of mental illness and personality disorders in the family, but not of bpd specifically. I don't know where to start helping him access help due to mental health services being so poor at the present time. We do have enough money for assessment and therapy out of savings, but is there private help available?

Also, what should we do/not do in regards to helping him? He is on medication for anxiety and depression, but he does have episodes of great distress and upset and me and dh don't want to make things worse. Just to keep things relatively stable whilst accessing help.

Any insight or advice gratefully received.

A book called borderline personality disorder by Anna Nierling was a godsend for me when my partner was going through diagnosis.
As for help, I have no idea on private but we tried so many different avenues for my partner and hit a brick wall everywhere. We then found a mental health hub locally and they dealt with him from start to finish. I'm not sure if every area has one but going off how brilliant our local one has been, I'd say it's worth a quick Google with your local area followed by mental health hub. GP was useless, so were counselling services. We just dropped lucky one day coming across the mental health hub when he was in a crisis