Vasectomy or not to vasectomy….

[katz801]

We have two DS (3 and 6 months). I always wanted 3 children and DH always wanted 2. I had a difficult pregnancy with my second and swore to ‘never again’. We agreed he would have a vasectomy when baby was here safe and sound.
I find being pregnant a very anxious time and I just don’t enjoy it. Both were both C-sections too and the thought of going through it again or being pregnant makes me feel sick!

Yet, the thing is. There is an appeal of no more sleepless nights, no nappies and the years getting easier (somewhat!). However, I get sad my youngest is my last and I’ll never have that tiny little baby again.

Did anyone feel done, but didn’t feel done? How do you know when that’s definitely that? Is this all part of the normal process?

DH booking in with GP to discuss which I’m fine with.

It sounds like even if you have a little bit of “what if we had another” sort of thinking, your DH is set on 2 anyway, as he’s always wanted two and has now booked to see the GP? So, realistically even if he didn’t have a vasectomy, would you ever have a third anyway? It’s not the vasectomy itself closing the door on another, it’s your husband’s certainty that he doesn’t want one.

Be aware though, depending on where you live, some areas no longer offer vasectomies on the NHS. We had this issue, DH had to go private which was annoyingly expensive (obviously cheaper than another child, but more expensive than free contraception for me).