I won't go into full detail. But basically alot of stuff went in with ds where he,was aggressive and violent. Things are much better now. But dd14 was effected by it quite badly.
Dd has had some basic counselling at school but she found it hard to talk about the stuff that happend with ds without it sounding like sibling bickering.
When ever ds walked in the room dd would express really bad negative vibes it was a horrible feeling . But the difficultie was that ds had help dd did not. So she never got the help he did.
A couple of weeks ago o manged to speak to her. Abd I asked her if she like this due to hoe ds had bedn in the past. I showed her empathy , understanding and said I understand etc. And she admitted that was why etc we had a long chat hugs tears etc.
So since then dd has been trying really hard . And ds has to.
So the thing I feel so happy about today. Is ds dd and me went to the pub for a meal we all had a nice meal and a chat and they were both laughing together and bouncing off each other. Ds has treated her to desert and let her have a small amount of drink. They are now singing etc .
Seems small but it is a massive setup for them . I really think things are gonna be good 🥰