Funny difference in family memories- Nice chat with sister.

[JandLandG]

Lovely couple of pints with little sis on Saturday afternoon.

She's 3 years younger. Difficult family time for her atm, but she was in good spirits. Different but odd/surreal for me too atm.

Anyway, my son's enjoying and doing well learning to drive; hopefully he can drive himself to school by the autumn for Upper Sixth or whatever they call it now.

So, Super Sis was reminded of me driving her to school when I was same age and lovely conversations and she thought I was cool and stuff.

I have absolutely no memory of that at all!

She was going on about lifts I gave her and how nice I was - blimey, I didn't know!!!

She was banging on about how I bought her the first Bros album a couple of years ago and she was made up and how kind and cool I was.

Ha! Would never have remembered those in a million years. 😝

So, just goes to show different perspectives and experiences..wondering if anyone else has similar differences in memories with friends or family?

I have another great old friend who has the memory of an absolute elephant; except it only ever remembers bad things I've done or said!

Honestly: Hey, JaLaG, remember the 14th of October 1998 when you said something daft and made an idiot of yourself?

Or that time on 23rd February 2003 when you proved yourself to be incontrovertibly silly and everyone laughed at you? Plus you puked up in a plant.

Blimey, I hate those type of memories - especially when I can't remember - are they just making them up?!?!?!?!?

Anyone else?

My sister has so many memories of our childhood that I just can’t remember. She comes out with lots of things that even when she says them I don’t remember. Her memories are correct as we have the photos of some of the things and places she talks about. I have a better memory for recent events than her. I think some people just have different types of memories so I think it is normal.

I can remember very little of my childhood, my brother can remember a lot in great detail. If he says something happened I assume hes right, because I have no idea. Strangely when it comes to academic stuff my memory is streets ahead of my brother's. So he can remember his and my life and I can remember random obscure facts but not what I did a week ago.

I can remember vividly back to about age 18 months, in full detail - I can remember sitting in a carry seat on my neighbour’s garden table drinking apple juice from a bottle, watching their daughter playing. I can remember being carried through the house into their dining room. We left that house before my sister was born, I was about 17-18 months old max at the time if not younger.

I’m often told that’s impossible but for some reason it’s stuck - similarly I can remember many, many, many other things that a lot of others forget. It isn’t really useful as such, it’s more a pain in the backside as I can’t not remember stuff so it can be very overstimulating/overwhelming - it’s impossible to block out the background noise of ‘that reminds me of the thing we did in July 1995’ etc etc.

I work with a neuropsych who’s done basic tests (for the fun of it) and she said she’s 99.9% it’s because I’m neurodivergent - that I would have been diagnosed as Asperger’s once upon a time.

I can remember being in a travel cot at the end of my parents bed, I’ve told them the room where we were etc and it’s correct, I was about 13 months old but most of my memories start at 2 years old and my brain is full to the brim. When I go off to sleep I can kind of flick through and decide what era to think about.

Very annoying for people around me as generally they can’t lie, I remember most things.

Thats lovely that she remembers that though, it is interesting as we all experience the same events but have totally different memories.

I think it’s why the “making memories” makes me cringe as you can’t define what your kids recall, if you ask my son about our Cornwall holiday he will talk about his “blue poo” as he ate a bright blue ice cream. 🤣

Nothing else just that!!

I also recall an entire family trip and mum was sick after the waltzers a whole entire holiday and my memory is mum running off and vomiting. Typical

My memory is absolutely awful. I have very few memories of childhood and the ones I do have are bad. Parents arguing, my grandma dying. My husband has great memories of his youth though. I find it really impacts connection with people. Does anyone else find that who has no memories? I can’t remember things my parents might or might not have done for me and I feel less connected to them because of it? My bad memory continues into adulthood to be honest. Thank goodness for photos and Facebook memories doing it for me!