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What kind of help is out there ?

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Pocketfullofsun · 03/04/2025 23:47

When I was at school I was very behind my peers and ended up being put down a school year. The school thought I may have some kind of brain damage adhd autism etc. I was diagnosed early on with dyslexia dyspraxia told I would need more tests as she could only diagnose dyslexia but felt something else might be wrong. I saw a specialist and then was told I was being referred to a special doctor who would give some advice and answers. My family at the time had read that the doctor likes to give out Ritalin so never took me for further tests as they didn’t want me on medication. My mum has always denied I’ve got anything wrong with me and just said that I’m dyslexic. In every school report it mentions my lack of concentration etc and I’ve struggled so much through out life and always felt different. Jobs have been hard making friends I can’t wear certain fabrics due to the feel I love vegetables but not the texture I could go on with all the problems i have. When I was at collage I got a copy of my report and had some extra help who said I could go through with a diagnosis on my own now that I was old enough and they thought it may help. I didn’t at the time as I felt I had got this far in life with out it was just about managing my life with my weird quirks and solutions to help me. Ten years on I’m struggling even more I started working with my husband had a baby and a home to run. My husband is understanding on how my Brain seems to work etc but I’m finding it more of a struggle to concentrate and focus on tasks. Now that I have a baby and a husband I’ve really been trying to sort out my life be more organised less forgetful finishing tasks before I start an other but it’s not really working and it’s a strain on our relationship. I’ve considered getting tested officially for once to try and get some help. Has anyone received any help if so what did you try ? Has medication worked for anyone? I’m going to try get a doctors appointment and chat to them about what happened all those years ago and if they can help me. I want to get something sorted. My relationship with my mum feels weird because of it I think she thought that if she didn’t diagnose me with anything it would all go away. Any time I did something it was always blamed on my dyslexia and I was always told to concentrate more. I gave 110% but it was never enough and I was told I wasn’t reaching my potential which I found so incredibly hard as I felt so lost. Everyone who met me always commented that I was in my own world but I never wanted to be. This has all come back up as I found my folder of reports and doc notes.

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midlandsmummy123 · 03/04/2025 23:55

That sounds tough OP - but only a medical doctor can diagnose and whilst you'll probably have people respond saying it sounds like ADHD or Autism, but there may well be other rarer conditions, it could also possibly be childhood trauma. but starting with your GP is a really good idea, plus maybe think about contacting your local Mind as they will offer counselling and support groups.

Pocketfullofsun · 04/04/2025 09:53

thank you I don’t feel I have childhood trauma just more shocked that my parents wouldn’t want to find out if I had anything wrong with me. As a young child I knew no different on how I felt or was not until I was older did I realise I wasn’t like my peers

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