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How do we cope when so unwell?!

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Elephant9 · 03/04/2025 13:53

Toddler had a bout of fever and diarrhoea
I now have it
dh is huffing and puffing any time I need to run to the loo
I have a 3 month old baby too EBF.

Just want to feel better and get some energy back
any tips to get over this asap? 😩😭

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Doolallies · 03/04/2025 13:53

Tell your husband to stop huffing and puffing over the fact you are ill. God men do my head in

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Elephant9 · 03/04/2025 13:54

@Doolallieshonestly.. he is really doing my head in 🤣

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Ohthatsabitshit · 03/04/2025 13:57

Spend the day in bed with the baby and toddler. Suboptimal parenting is fine when you are sick. Have a safe place to stash the baby when you need the loo. (A nest of towels in the bath works well if you are there to supervise). Give the toddler a torch and some toys and “let them” have a den under your bed or some chairs.

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Cosycover · 03/04/2025 14:11

Shit on your husband.

UtterlyOtterly · 03/04/2025 14:18

Tell your useless husband to step up or get out. I have zero tolerance for pathetic men who are happy to provide the sperm but not willing to look after their families when needed.

On a practical level, do as little as possible, the baby and toddler will be ok. Lower your expectations and if your husband lacks the wit to see what needs doing, give him a list and tell him to check back when he's done everything.

Honestly they really are a hopeless subset of humans.

mindutopia · 03/04/2025 14:22

Is he home on a day off or meant to be working? Because holding a 3 month old while your wife poos every 10 minutes is one thing if you’re sitting on the sofa watching tv. It’s another thing if it’s in the middle of a Teams meeting with a client. I would probably be huffy then too.

I hope you feel better though. If he is working, 5pm or whenever he clocks off, he gets the kids and you take yourself to bed with lots of hydration in between feeds.

whathaveiforgotten · 03/04/2025 15:23

mindutopia · 03/04/2025 14:22

Is he home on a day off or meant to be working? Because holding a 3 month old while your wife poos every 10 minutes is one thing if you’re sitting on the sofa watching tv. It’s another thing if it’s in the middle of a Teams meeting with a client. I would probably be huffy then too.

I hope you feel better though. If he is working, 5pm or whenever he clocks off, he gets the kids and you take yourself to bed with lots of hydration in between feeds.

Surely if it was every 10 mins your wife was needing to go to the toilet due to diarrhoea you’d tell work it’s an emergency childcare situation and take the day off / organise cover / reschedule the meetings?

Rather than ‘huffing’ at your wife for having diarrhoea?

Orangelover · 03/04/2025 15:36

You poor thing why is DH huffing and puffing? It's not your fault if you've got an upset tummy these things happen. Hopefully he gets it next and you can huff and puff back at him...

Plenty of water to flush it all through and stay hydrated, heat pack/hot water bottle on your belly if you've got tummy pains and hopefully DH pulls his finger out so you can relax a bit. Hope you feel better soon!

LetTheWindBlowBackYourHair · 03/04/2025 15:44

Oh goodness I had this when my children were about the same age. I was EBF my baby who was 4 months old and we had a toddler a month off turning 2! It was hell! I had to lie in bed to breast feed the baby because every time I lifted my head I would need to vomit!

My only advice, and it is no help at all, but it's get a better husband! Mine took care of the toddler, mopped up all his sick in the night as I was already ill myself, also took the baby between feeds. Basically was a parent and a husband. Although, he wasn't actually my husband at this stage and once on the road to recovery I burst in to tears with exhaustion and relief and he proposed to me while comforting me! Not the Instagram worthy romantic all singing all dancing proposal some expect but it was absolutely wonderful!

Anyway that's no help at all, I'm so sorry, all the luck and strength in the world to you. I would possibly, recommend getting some bottles and formula in for any potential second bouts so your husband can feed the baby if needed - if he will? (it came back 2 weeks later for us and personally I didn't have the strength to continue breast feeding).

WeeOrcadian · 03/04/2025 16:23

What IS the sperm donor doing, if it isn't helping? Aside from huffing and fuffing I mean, because that is likely to make you stabby and that isn't useful when YOU'RE POORLY

I hope you have zero sympathy for him when catches it, or the next time he has man flu

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Elephant9 · 03/04/2025 16:28

Sorry I should’ve said he is working but has told work - they told him to take the time to do what he needs to do to help. Also didn’t have any teams meetings today and his workload is quite light ATM. Oh well.

I have had the kids most the day today just had to occupy them while I whizz off.

unsure why he’s such a huffy mess today but I wish I had more help so I could kick him out for a few hours lol

thanks for the advice all

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