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Co-worker making stereotype comments about me based on my religion.

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JumpingS · 03/04/2025 07:42

There is a team member who thankfully I don't need to have regular dealings with but in the last couple of weeks he has made several comments about me based on my religion.
He doesn't know me at all on a personal level as when we talk it's always based around work issues.
He makes assumptions on how he thinks I am because of my religion. I wouldn't mind if it was said in a genuine way but it's always in a negative tone and he's dismissive if I tell him anything different. I get the vibe he doesn't like my religion which is fine. I'm used to it with the media portrayal of it but thankfully I've never had anyone at work be so rude and horrible about it.

I don't want to make a big deal about it but I do want to tell him to cut it out and tell him it's out of order but not sure what to say!

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verycloakanddaggers · 03/04/2025 07:44

Just say 'Please stop making comments about my religion.' You don't have to explain or justify.

I'd consider telling your manager though, you shouldn't have to put up with this.

ITurnedMyCollarToTheColdAndDamp · 03/04/2025 07:46

Wow, that's awful of him, let alone horribly unprofessional. Do you share a line manager? I'd be reporting this, he needs to be told to stop. If he can't tell the difference between respectful conversation and insulting bollocks then he needs to be told to only speak to you (and anyone!) about work until he grows up.

lollypops2303 · 03/04/2025 07:48

I agree, you highlighting it makes you uncomfortable SHOULD be enough but for some people that isn’t clear enough. Maybe mention to your manager and make it clear that, for now, you do not wish to make a deal with it but if it continues you would wish to make it more formal.
Sorry you’ve had to deal with that at work! People should keep their opinions to themselves and actually be professional.

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Judgejudysno1fan · 03/04/2025 07:49

Sorry about that. I have negative comments to, based on the fact I'm a revert Muslim. You need to report this.

Judgejudysno1fan · 03/04/2025 07:49

Too*

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/04/2025 07:50

"Sorry, but please could you stop making assumptions about me based on my faith?"

"Did you intend for your comments to sound so discriminatory?"

Pillarsofsalt · 03/04/2025 07:54

If he isn’t mentioning your religion explicitly I would try to make him say it. a conversation Ive personally had below for example:

”oh you’d be good at that pillarsofsalt”
why do you think that?
”I just thought that’s the kind of thing you would be naturally good at”
No I’m not very good at that kind of thing, why would you think that?
”oh, aren’t you that’s funny”
why is that funny?
”Because you’re, well, because em, no, no reason”

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/04/2025 07:58

Or how about "Have you read the Equity, Diversity and Inclusion policy? Might be worth revisiting it to refresh your memory."

Or just report it and let your manager address it directly.

However you choose to tackle it, you shouldn't have to deal with this kind of shit at work.

mnreader · 03/04/2025 08:01

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