Is this normal or not?

[janeeire244]

Is it normal for parents to instruct their children not to speak with or interact with a certain family member/relative because of the fact the parent has fallen out with that person? For instance, a disagreement between a parent and their sibling means the children are told not to speak to their aunt/uncle and even their cousin by connection to their aunt/uncle?

Im not asking if it’s acceptable or should be done or understandable but is it normal in the sense that you do it or you know of people who do?

Surely it depends on why they've fallen out?

I've been excluded from the wider family because of something my sister did to my DC (tried to kill them) and as she's the golden child, I'm expected to brush it under the carpet and never mention it. Strangely enough, that's not ok for me but I'm still seen as the unreasonable one for limiting contact. I've told my DC not to talk to her unless absolutely necessary, and to limit it to one word answers. I've not forbidden them to speak to my niece and nephew though, they're not responsible for their mother's behaviour. They don't see them often - for obvious reasons. Clearly, I think I'm justified in my stance, as do all my friends and IL's. My family don't agree.

I wouldn't say it's normal to call out with family members in the first place and theres not going to be a normal amongst the people who do as every situation will be different

If its a situation you're in it doesn't matter anyway what others families do, it won't impact how your relative acts. I would concentrate on your family