OCD and my unused spare room

[ThatLilacHedgehog]

So I have a spare room since my son moved out for uni and have been given strict instructions to leave his room untouched and to keep out, the door is closed pretty much all the time, I checked it for the first time in a while today and the room hasn’t built up much dust but I noticed it was really warm in there and walked into a cobweb.

I’m wondering can the warmth cause damage to my sons belongings and if there is a spider in there could that eat through his fabrics?

My dd is at university and I don’t Hoover or dust her room or even think about it at all. She hasn’t moved out properly. She comes home for a couple of weeks in the summer and the same at Christmas. The door is open but I don’t go in because there isn’t a reason to.

It's your home, he no longer lives there 24/7. You can do whatever's needed.

Does he ban you from entering because your OCD means you’ll clean it all the time/go through his things? If do I can understand.

the room will be fine though. You seem concerned about dust? Spiders don’t eat clothes either.

What does OCD have to do with this?

Op I also have OCD, if you ever need to talk feel free to message me. I know how hard it is.

if people don’t understand what OCD is then they shouldn’t comment. The clue is in the name.
It’s a difficult thing to deal with.

The room will be fine. Just give it a bit of an airing. Nothing will have come to any harm.

It’s very difficult to deal with.
Lots of people say ‘oh, I’m a bit OCD’ when they just like a tidy house, so it’s not always used in the right sense on MN - but I really don’t think OP is like that.

i was referring to the comments in this post.
OPs example is a real life example of how debilitating and how it really does take an outside perspective to help understand how to work through a compulsion or intrusive thought.
OCD isn’t the ‘I need to clean’ or ‘I like things tidy’ that tv portrays.

How long has the room been empty ? I'm sure it will be fine but it would probably be good to open the windows every now and have a quick clean.

But we don't know if the OP has OCD. She might be using the term loosely - I can't tell from her OP.

We can give more helpful advice if we know.

I have a lot of sympathy for anyone who has OCD. My DS has severe OCD, so I know what an affliction it is. But people sometimes say they have OCD when they just mean they're very houseproud or tidy or worry they've left the front door unlocked. Which is very different to having obsessions and/or compulsions.

Ignore him. Its your home. As long as you are respectful of his possessions I would vent and do a simple clean.