How often is reasonable to see grandparents

[mamimo]

Large family, lots of adult children and grandchildren, and great grandchildren ranging from older teenagers to babies. Elderly grandma is in her 90s and lives 20 mins away so not too far at all. How often would you say is fair to go and see them?

I am currently on maternity leave with a very young baby who hates the car and fights naps, but feel very guilty that I’ve not been to visit more frequently than I have been doing :(

If they were only 20 mins away I would see at least weekly tbh.

Could someone not bring them to you a couple of times a month if you are finding going out anywhere too much at the moment?

Depends if you enjoy their company/how well you get on?

I’d do anything to be able to take my baby over to my grandparent’s house.

You shouldn’t feel pressured to take your kids over, you should want to. I feel the car journey is more of a convenient excuse. I’m sure if there was something you wanted to do, you’d drive 20 minutes with your baby.

Once a week seems reasonable especially if you're not working full time/on maternity leave. We see grandparents (my husband's parents) who live 5 mins away a couple of times a week and my parents every 4 weeks (as they live an hour's drive away - though I do feel a bit guilty as it should be more often but weekends after a busy week of work come and go so quickly).

‘20 minutes so not far at all’.

I also never said how frequently I go. But thank you for your less than pleasant response!

Weekly at a minimum.