Implants instead of real

Phoenix12346 · 2025-03-29T19:25:53+00:00

Hey everyone, this is an insecurity of mine I've had for many years and whilst it doesnt upset me like it used to its still there in the back of my mind. I was very flat chested so I got implants. Considering there was nothing there I think the surgeon did a good job but of course they are not the same as having real boobs. I always feel like any guy who dates me isnt getting a whole woman. I dont regret getting them done as I'd rather have implants than nothing but I worry I'm never enough for a guy. If a guy likes someone enough could he put up with never having a full woman? Would he ever be satisfied or always thinking of looking elsewhere? I am aware there are many more important things in life I just wanted to see what others thought. I dont feel I can talk about it IRL

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 29/03/2025 19:28

You are thinking about this way more than any boyfriend would!

Frostynoman · 29/03/2025 19:29

Start with the question of in your mind, what would be enough?

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Phoenix12346 · 29/03/2025 19:42

I just think boobs is a fairly standard thing men expect when they have a girlfriend. I cant give him that.

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Frostynoman · 29/03/2025 19:57

You can. You have the implants which lots of men love but you also have boobs, albeit from your description very small which again, some men really love. The issue here is with what you love and how you love yourself - sod anyone else. The fact you feel that you aren’t a whole woman is really sad to read and I think it would be worth really considering doing work on that for yourself.

user18 · 29/03/2025 20:01

They might not even know. Depends on how long you've had them in and how they were done.

If you've had them in for a while be aware that they may well have ruptured so make sure you get them checked and removed/changed after ten years.

PeanutButterJellyx · 29/03/2025 20:10

You are full woman. You don’t need huge natural boobs to be a full woman. Plenty of men like smaller busted women for a start, and plenty of men love implants - I mean look how many women in p*rn have implants and men don’t have any issue with that, in fact plenty of men actually have a fetish for implants. Basically men love all boobs - big, small, real, fake - they don’t care.

Zinnialime · 29/03/2025 20:22

They are just boobs, at the end of the day.

Also the guy is choosing to date you so therefore must be happy enough with them, right ? He's not being forced into it.

MrsMoastyToasty · 29/03/2025 20:24

Most men aren't looking at your mantelpiece when their poker is in the fire.

MsNevermore · 29/03/2025 20:25

I’ve just asked my DH and he said: “There’s no such thing as bad boobs” 🫠🫠🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️😂😂😂

KoalaKoKo · 29/03/2025 20:28

Honestly as you hit about 40 big natural boobs start to sag a bit, there are benefits to being smaller chested and having implants - it does not make you less of a woman!

Flozle · 29/03/2025 21:18

MrsMoastyToasty · 29/03/2025 20:24

Most men aren't looking at your mantelpiece when their poker is in the fire.

Grim.

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/03/2025 21:56

Virtually everybody has insecurities about their body. Walk down the street and look at all the different shapes and sizes of the people around you. Look at all the different couples formed of people who all look different. There’s no fixed template of “real woman” which all other women conform to and all men are with which you differ from.

Have you ever had a proper relationship? You talk about “guys who date you”, and it sounds as though you’ve only ever experienced things on a very superficial level where you’re always therefore thinking about superficial things and finding yourself lacking. The point of being in a relationship is that you’re with somebody who likes and loves you for you - they aren’t looking at a particular part of you and obsessing about it, they’re there for the combination of all of you.

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Phoenix12346 · 30/03/2025 05:54

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/03/2025 21:56

Virtually everybody has insecurities about their body. Walk down the street and look at all the different shapes and sizes of the people around you. Look at all the different couples formed of people who all look different. There’s no fixed template of “real woman” which all other women conform to and all men are with which you differ from.

Have you ever had a proper relationship? You talk about “guys who date you”, and it sounds as though you’ve only ever experienced things on a very superficial level where you’re always therefore thinking about superficial things and finding yourself lacking. The point of being in a relationship is that you’re with somebody who likes and loves you for you - they aren’t looking at a particular part of you and obsessing about it, they’re there for the combination of all of you.

The only longer term relationship I've had the guy was cheating on me. Most other guys have dated me for a while then decided I wasnt for them.

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steppingin · 30/03/2025 06:54

Phoenix12346 · 30/03/2025 05:54

The only longer term relationship I've had the guy was cheating on me. Most other guys have dated me for a while then decided I wasnt for them.

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Honestly, I think this is more to do with your self esteem/confidence than anything.
There’s a lot of truth in the ‘you’ve got to love yourself first’ sayings. Being with somebody who doesn’t, and who feels constantly insecure, and all that comes with it is exhausting and difficult in a whole variety of ways.

I say this as somebody who spent much of her twenties with pretty low self esteem, and correlating low success in relationships.
It had nothing to do with my boobs.

steppingin · 30/03/2025 06:55

Not the cheating of course. He’s just a dick and you should be glad you found that out before getting in too deep.

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Phoenix12346 · 30/03/2025 07:09

steppingin · 30/03/2025 06:54

Honestly, I think this is more to do with your self esteem/confidence than anything.
There’s a lot of truth in the ‘you’ve got to love yourself first’ sayings. Being with somebody who doesn’t, and who feels constantly insecure, and all that comes with it is exhausting and difficult in a whole variety of ways.

I say this as somebody who spent much of her twenties with pretty low self esteem, and correlating low success in relationships.
It had nothing to do with my boobs.

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Yes I get that. I do try not to let the insecurity come out but I guess guys can pick up on it anyway.

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