12 days ago my world fell apart and now I'm struggling to cope. My partner of 5 years has been seeing another woman. I saw the photos of him wearing her lipstick after she sent me an instagram follow request. She thought I was business partner rather than anything else.
We are about 4 hours apart and although we see each other most weeks and call/video call multiple times a day he found someone else.
He said that he's been texting her for about 4 months but it only turned flirty in last month. Her facebook relationship status shows that it became official late Jan. We spent 10 days together at mine after that date. He keeps lying to me and he won't block her/cut her out.
She has said via him that I am controlling and manipulative and he clearly wasn't happy so he should get rid of me. I blocked her but she's since changed her photo to one of them together, almost 2 weeks after I found out.
He was sneaking off to see her while I was here, on my own, waiting for him. He lied about going to do jobs at night. He lied about seeing his mate and sister when he went to her.
He claims he did it for escapism and I moan all the time. Thing is, I suspected right back in December. I almost drove myself crazy, I asked him and he denied it.
We are still talking but he hasn't blocked her number. Apparently, he's not seen her since before I found out and not spoken to her in over a week. I don't believe him. We've got a holiday booked and I was so happy despite the niggling suspicion. He was so attentive, I dismissed it that I was not right.
She is 10 years younger than me. She's got no children and they went out a lot, then back to hers for sex. He could have only stayed over twice as he's spoken to me later on at night every night aside from then.
He claims he always still wanted me and couldn't quite dtd properly with her. I keep asking if he spared me a thought, he didn't. He said he asked her out after we'd argued having been chatting for a bit. He claims he didn't know the photos were there but I know he lies as due to our business, I can see his fb and instagram searches through the meta account we share.
I don't know what I want from this thread, possibly some sympathy for being a complete mug. I can't eat or sleep. I'm keeping going for my children.
I couldn't give him what he wanted. Ge says he still fancies her.