First Mothers Day dilemma

[HappyDreamer]

So my LO is almost 9 months old. My partner had arranged a double date with his friends for us on Saturday night and for his mum to look after my baby while we go out for a curry. I never go out anymore so I am looking forward to this, but we may have to stay in a hotel as his mum lives an hour away and it’s just dawned on me that I may wake up on my first Mother’s Day with my baby not with me. This thought makes me sad and honestly I am almost tempted to cancel - am I being silly?

I would say enjoy the long lie! Especially as the clocks go forward. There's aren't many opportunities with a wee one, unless you have one of these unicorn babies that sleeps really well! Your LO is 9 months old and won't know what day it is, and I assume you'll spend the rest of the day with with LO? Plenty more Mother's Days to come once your LO knows what's going on. Don't cancel, you still need time together with your partner.

I wouldnt go. And if wonder why if you dont go out often, why that night?

Which one is more likely to create a ‘core memory’….do that one 🙂

It wouldn't have even occurred to me to be upset about this. Mother's Day didn't mean anything to me until DC were told enough to be making cards at nursery and school. Your baby won't know.

Honestly mothers day is very underwhelming until they are old enough to make their own card, choose their own gift and recognise the meaning behind it. I would be jumping at the chance to sleep in, have a night out and you'll still have the actual day with your daughter.

I’d enjoy my night out then ask MIL to do a Sunday roast so you can celebrate together!

I wouldn’t give it a second thought.

my partner just planned this Saturday night with his friend and gf who don’t have children and my partner honestly wouldn’t of thought it was Mother’s Day the next day

Thank you! X

Could your MIL stay at your house to look after your DD? Then you won't miss out.

Enjoy your night out

Him not being arsed about the first mothers day would also annoy me.

I am also nervous because MIL will take her down to the pub and I am not comfortable with this

No. I wouldnt have my 9 month old at the pub on a saturday night.

You 9month old can cope till you see them later? What is you need to do early in a morning that you can't do later other than wakeup?

Whereas I'd have thought my DH was being a bit silly if he'd considered it at all before DC were aware of it themselves so it takes all sorts. If he'd been annoyed at me for not marking his first father's day I'd have been a bit confused.