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To not recognise anyone outside their natural environment

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Differentstarts · 27/03/2025 19:38

I saw my neighbour in the supermarket today they spoke to me for about 10 minutes i had no clue who they where. This is a person who i say hello to everyday. My friend i was with knew exactly who she was and she's probably only seen her a handful of times. I'm like this all the time with teachers, drs, hairdresser, postman etc unless they are where their "supposed" to be i just don't recognise them. My friend on the other hand recognises everyone after meeting them once. She thinks I'm weird I think she is. Which is normal and which are you?

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HurdyGurdy19 · 30/03/2025 13:39

I was in a shop attached to a petrol station, picking up a meal deal for lunch. A lady came up, smiled at me, asked after the kids etc. Very friendly. And I couldnt place her at all. I knew I knew her, but not where from.

About three days later, I realised where I knew her from. She was my (fabulous) GP . I just didnt recognise her out of the context of the surgery

spicemaiden · 30/03/2025 13:59

this sounds like facial blindness.

Arran2024 · 30/03/2025 14:03

I have face blindness. We live next to a cul de sac and people from there walk past constantly- my husband says hello to people but I don't have a clue who they are. I really struggle with celebs - mostly I don't recognise them. Watching films and tv shows can be a problem as I don't always recognise the characters when they reappear, especially if they are in disguise. I have dogs and walk them every day but I can only place people if they have their dogs with them.

quirkychick · 30/03/2025 14:05

I took this a second time (so will take that into account) this time without the twilight (blue light) filter off, so could see better. I did it on my phone, so the pictures were quite small and found I could recognise the faces from last time.

I know I'm pretty good at names and faces, I used to remember 30 children's names before lunchtime when I did supply teaching. Rubbish at dates and song intros though!

Edited to say blue light filter off.

To not recognise anyone outside their natural environment
Ownedbykitties · 30/03/2025 14:47

Lovin' this! I have face blindness ALL THE TIME! 🫣

Ownedbykitties · 30/03/2025 14:50

@Arran2024i think we're related.

Horses7 · 30/03/2025 22:35

I’ve always been like this - apparently Joanna Lumley has it and in an interview called it a long medical type name …. but I can’t remember that either.

Idontcareboutthestateofmyhair · 31/03/2025 01:08

I failed to recognise my hubby in Cyprus a few years ago. He'd gone off to rent a mobility scooter for my dad. We were sitting at the front waiting for him when an 'elderly' gent went by on a mobility scooter saying 'good morning!' I mumbled oh yes good morning thinking it was just a fellow oldie Brit recognising fellow Brits on hols..nope it was my hubby lol..he turned and came back in front of us and I was thinking oh great I really can't be arsed chatting when I realized it was him 😬

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 01/04/2025 08:30

downhere · 28/03/2025 00:39

Omg the mixing up colleagues thing has happened to me too. My mind was blown when I realised they were two people not one!

Haha. I’ll take your 2 women at work and raise you 3 different women watching their children’s swimming lessons 🙄

MovingBird123 · 01/04/2025 09:15

Yes, I spent 5 years being friendly to my neighbour, while blanking him when I saw him working in a shop. It took me seeing him coming home in the shop uniform to realise it was the same person.

Edit to add that he also didn't really say hello, he was busy working and is a little reserved. I wasn't just ignoring someone saying hi...

Arran2024 · 01/04/2025 09:15

One of our neighbours was in Eastenders for several years. I know the character but I just can't connect the two together at all.

webweaverToo · 02/04/2025 13:49

Yep – I have face blindness too.

I’ve also got a terrible sense of direction – I often come out of a shop and turn the wrong way down the street, for example. It’s even worse if it’s a department store and I’ve left by a different door – then I have no clue at all where I am.

If I’m in a new office (which is fairly often, as I’m a contractor) I get lost going to the loo or the kitchen, or even back to my desk in a big place. My trick is to keep on turning round and looking behind me as I’m being shown round a new location – so that I see what it’s going to look like on the way back.

I’ve also done the thing with thinking for ages that two different people were the same person. So embarrassing when you finally realise because you’re talking to person A about stuff related to person B and they’re like... “wuh?”!

I definitely don’t recognise someone out of context – but even in context it also depends on how many times I’ve met them before. It takes me much longer than most people to even start to learn what someone looks like, so if I‘ve only met them a few times, I’ve got no chance. I go by voice, hair, clothes, the way they walk - much more than face, although sometimes if they have a very strong facial feature it can help. Someone I know with a hat on, or sunglasses, or a new hairdo – again, I’ve got no chance of recognising them. And yet if someone calls me on the phone and they don’t announce who they are, I’ll know who it is because I recognise their voice immediately.

I’ve also done the thing where I talk with someone or work with them for hours one day, see them the following day and have no idea who they are. Or I’ll spend time with someone who then goes off and changes their clothes – again, I’ve got no idea I’ve just been talking to them for ages.

A couple of times I’ve had male friends who’ve shaved off their beard, and it’s pretty much blown my mind each time. Here’s this person I’m supposed to know, and they’re talking to me, and it’s that person’s voice, and I recognise it, but it’s coming out of this face that is COMPLETELY alien to me, and I just can’t compute at all.

I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve bumped into someone in the street and we have a chat and I’m spending the entire time trying to pick up clues about who they are and how I know them. Total embarrassing nightmare if you’re there with someone else and feel you should be introducing them, but can’t because you don’t know who the person is, or what their name is, or how you know them.

I’m in a band that has over 100 members, with a bunch of new people joining every year, and that’s really hard to keep track of. In one section of the band there are about 5 blokes, all with no hair/shaved heads – and honestly, I can still barely tell them apart, even though they’ve all been in the band a couple of years at least now.

These days, because I know what prosopagnosia is, and I know I have it – I just tell people. It’s so much easier, and much less embarrassing. So the 5 identical blokes all know I can’t tell one from the other, and they just let me know which one they are, and we’re all happy.

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