What shall I do on Sunday?

[HauntedHen]

Just found out I’m going to be on my own on Mother’s Day.

Eldest DC is at Uni, coming home on Friday but heading back very early on Sunday. Younger DC will be working from 9 until 6.30. DH will be out cycling all day. Says I’m not his mum so he doesn’t need to be at home, which I suppose is true but still leaves me feeling a bit meh.

Was going to see my mum but apparently she has plans all day with DSIS.

What can I do on Sunday, otherwise I’ll sit in the house all day on my own wondering why I’ve given up 20 years of my life and they’re not even a tiny bit grateful.

I’d be more than happy with a cup of tea in bed and a bunch of daffs, but I know I won’t even get that.

Cinema
Walk in the countryside
Look at red letter days for inspiration

I'd ask if I could join in the plans with my mum and my sister.

I’m going for a drive/walk and a picnic with a friend. If I wasn’t doing that I’d probably have a lie in, go into town and have a cooked breakfast and then a wander round the bookshops/charity shops before heading home for an easy/takeaway dinner nier and a binge of something only I love and a glass of chilled wine.

Can't you go out with your mum and sister?

I would enjoy a visit to my local bookshop, where I would sip coffee and browse through the fiction, the politics section and the cookery books

Or I might check myself into the local spa hotel and swan about between the sauna and the jacuzzi, with a bottle of something crisp and fruity

or take my beloved Labrador to the beach with a food flask of hot sausages and some tea.

Am I the only one who thinks this sounds amazing. I'd open a bottle of wine have a bath order food and watch whatever I wanted

Thanks for all the ideas. To those saying go out with DM and DSIS, DSIS is very much the favourite and I’m definitely not invited.

@Differentstarts I spend most of my weekends alone. I was hoping for a bit of company on Mothers Day. I guess it’s my life now DC are older and a sign I need to find myself a hobby.

I would take myself to the cinema and then lunch.

Or got a museum that no-one else in the family is interested in and then lunch.

I think I'd be having a word with DH though to say he can cycle and then take me out to lunch or dinner.

Just do whatever you normally do on a Sunday. I haven't spent Mother's Day with my mum since I left home. Thankfully she doesn't give a shit!

Well we lose an hour with the clocks springing forward.

Do you know anyone else likely to be alone who might fancy a Sunday walk/cake etc. ?

I'll be just with our youngest child who has disabilities and not good at the moment.

So it will be a day of pottering if the weather is kind. Hoping my eldest will get me a garden voucher so can pop off to the garden centre. I dropped a big hint the other day! Might get to the gym if DP gets home before it closes.

Firstly, your husband is a d * ckhead, how dare he speak to you like that; secondly, why are your kids also following suit and not spending the day with you on Mother’s Day? Why can’t the older one go home later and the other one take a day off work?

Hugs to you, PP. It's rubbish that no one has made a plan to appreciate you. Sadly, this can be the definition of motherhood. For so many years, I've helped my DH put on a splendid Sunday lunch for his mum ...

On the 30th, I'm hosting my in-laws. It was FIL's birthday this weekend so it all fits. But, check the martyrhood, my DH died last winter...

I’ve got Sunday next week alone. I’m meeting a friend for a short walk, going to the cinema, then to a Thai buffet for lunch.

Is there a Ramblers group you could join?

I’d also be having a word with your H about the lack of emotional support.

Cinema in the afternoon then get DH to book a meal out together with your youngest. Ask your mum and d sis to join you.

I would frame this differently...I'd see it as your DC who is away at Uni is coming home this weekend so it'll be nice to see them and nice that they want to come home. Regardless of whether they will be around for the actual day.

Have you told your family you'd like to spend some time with them? Even if just for a nice breakfast before they go off on their various activities

If they can't be free then options could be:

Watch a movie or binge a series no one else in the house would want to watch

Potter round the kitchen making something you find both delicious and relaxing to prepare while listening to an audio book or podcast

Read a lovely book

Go to the garden centre for some spring flowers, a toastie and a coffee

Retail therapy

Meet a friend for lunch

A walk, bike ride or swim or yoga with adrienne on YouTube

For next year I think it's ok to ask for a bit.more consideration. Give them plenty of notice and ask for a family meal or day out.

Get your DH to have a word about them sorting a card at least.

Hope you find something nice to do on Sunday.

Come to work with me?! My mother's Day and birthday! 😄
Do something that you truly would like to do and don't get time for. Be selfish for one day.

All the restaurants will be jam packed, so a meal out wouldn't be much fun. I'd get some favourite foods in, maybe ready meals, or do easy things like smoked salmon sandwiches or cheese, some wine, some ready mixed cocktails and nibbles.
Relax with your favourite films or books, perhaps buy yourself some flowers, or earrings or perfume, something that will lift your spirits.
Have a good day!

Won’t your DCs be there Saturday? Do something nice to celebrate Mother’s Day on Saturday,

I was planning on taking myself off to somewhere like TK max or IKEA or a garden centre - on the assumption that everyone will be busy taking their mums for pub lunches etc. I’m hoping the shops will be blissfully empty (or half empty anyway).