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I’ve never flown … I’ve just booked a flight …

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firsttimeflyinghelp · 25/03/2025 17:04

I’ve never flown that I remember. Once at 6 months old but I don’t remember that. My mum was petrified of flying. My dad OTOH flies everywhere.

I’ve booked an hour’s flight from England to Scotland to see family. It’s either that or 9 hours on trains and buses in total. It’s a no brainer basically. But I’m shitting it, I don’t know anything about flying. I’m petrified of heights, taking off, crashing, turbulence, being stuck, having a panic attack … everything!

I can beat this can’t I. I’m 34 ffs.

I’ll be doing it alone which doesn’t help at all, although it’s a teeny tiny plane.

Any advice or wisdom appreciated!!

OP posts:
Helterskelterthroughtheday · 26/03/2025 07:22

firsttimeflyinghelp · 25/03/2025 19:17

I can’t thank you enough for doing this, I’m going to save this to my notes on my phone haha and refer back to it (and this thread) when I get panicky again! Thank you so so much (all) - huge, huge help. I am a teeny bit excited - hopefully it goes smoothly. It’s a tiny little airport, the one I arrive in is a bit bigger (Teeside to Aberdeen).

Just to say re that list of what happens:

Youll only need to take off your coat/jacket/cardigan, no other clothes unless you are wearing a belt. Staff will indicate if you need to take shoes off. The way your possessions are scanned is changing. At some airports (most?), you still need to put all your electronic devices in a second plastic tray. At others you can now leave then in your handbag in the tray. There'll be a sign to tell you. Your liquids go in a sealed see through plastic bag in your plastic tray.

Being checked with a wand isn't done to everyone. You stand in a queue and a member of staff will call you forward. Then you either walk through a scanner (like an open door frame) or you stand still with your arms away from your side and a more detailed scan is done. Staff may pat you down or check you with a hand held 'wand' after that. You will be told what to do, so don't worry about it.

Hope that helps.

PenneyFouryourthoughts · 26/03/2025 07:51

I'm flying to Inverness from Gatwick in July OP! I did try and book trains but they cost twice as much 😩.

I find flying a PITA, squashed up, never comfortable. I'm not scared, though I don't like the feeling of leaving my stomach on the tarmac when ascending. Other than that, it's ok. You're going to be fine.

notimagain · 26/03/2025 07:53

it’s a teeny tiny plane

Looks like it could well be a twin turbo-prop, if it’s with someone like Eastern then probably a Jetsteam.

Most of what previous posters have said still applies but (to borrow the pothole analogy) it would be absolutely normal to feel the bumps in the road a tiny bit more during your flight on than on something like a 737.

On the plus plus side getting on and off should be pretty darn quick….

Have a good flight.

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HoppingPavlova · 26/03/2025 08:17

@PleaseDontFingerMyPouffe well done, but you have missed out all the best bits🤣.

Don’t be at all surprised if flight delayed and no one seems to have updates until someone let’s slip they are trying to find a crew for the flight. We have a high incidence of that. Plane comes in, ‘retiring’ crew gets off, new crew from another flight in was meant to take over but that flight was delayed/cancelled and now there is a plane but no crew. The gate area is overcrowded with only half the seats versus passengers. Everyone completely over life but having to stand around/not go to toilet for fear of losing seat in case they miss an announcement of what is actually going on.

High likelihood of person you sit next to having b.o. or being annoying in some way. Some like to tell you their entire life story. Immediately on plonking your bum on the seat, put obvious headphones on and don’t make eye contact. Also, high likelihood of some CF’er who hasn’t booked/paid selected seats kicking off as they have been separated from travelling companions/kids and expecting the plane to shuffle around to accomodate their cheapness. Also, there will always be someone who takes someone else’s seat (don’t know why but they always have a reason that makes sense to them only) and causes a ruckus everyone else has to put up with. It will give you the opportunity to thank fuck you never contemplated becoming air crew because even the most passive, mild mannered folk want to punch these people in the face. You will be amazed at the restraint of the air crew.

I won’t even go there re the fights regarding overhead lockers. Expect a shitfight and beware CF’ers exist who even think nothing of moving other peoples bags around to accomodate their odd sized stuff that is not even overhead compliant.

I laughed at the pp’s description of ‘there may be a slight delay’ when taxi’ing. Many is the time I’ve been on the tarmac for several hours. Reality being I could have flown there and back 2 or 3 times in the time we have been sitting there. Admittedly, my home airport is located in some abnormal high wind zone so this may play a part at both ends. But I have encountered it occasionally on unrelated routes also. Many is the time I have heard pilot’s apologise and say if they actually taxi out it makes it much harder for them to drag us back and cancel the flight and they also want to get home, so a delay of several hours is the lessor evil.

Then there is the potential endless circling when there is a delay in landing, or even potential diversion to some other airport nowhere near where you want to be.

If you are on a route with meals, always register as vegetarian. That has always been a better bet than the other options which are sometimes hard to believe are actually food when you look at it, and taste it. Plus they give you your meal before the trolleys, where if you are in later rows you often don’t even get a choice between the bad options.

Don’t contemplate the toilets unless you really have to. Stuff of nightmares. On a short flight, do not drink for a few hours prior and make sure you get it out before boarding. Then go at the other end if needed. On long haul, just steele yourself for it, and hope for the best.

On landing, 99% of people act like complete dicks trying to get off. Common sense says if you are in the last row, you are not getting off first, but this concept seems to allude most people. Of course, as with getting on, this will be the time for people to endlessly mess around with bags getting them down and packing stuff in (again the opposite frustration from boarding where they dither endlessly taking stuff out, while blocking the aisle before sitting down).

Also, on landing, depending on where you are, people may clap the pilots for doing the job they are paid for. I find Americans to be high volume culprits. In my country we find this silly and make fun of the outliers who do this believing it is normal🤣. Having said that, if we have experienced horrendous turbulence, have had an engine out, landing gear threatening failure or so forth and they manage to land us mainly unharmed in one piece, we all give them a bloody big clap on landing. They have had to earn it though.

In short, the actual mechanics and safety of flying is nothing to worry about. However, there is generally ample opportunity to be pissed off due to a million and one other things outside your control 😁.

Dustmylemonlies · 26/03/2025 08:24

@PenneyFouryourthoughts Inverness airport is so calm and lovely. Took us 8 minutes from plane steps to front door!

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 26/03/2025 08:38

By the time you get up it will be a 45 min flight, take a sandwich and a book, or download an episode of whatever box set you are watching.

I always get nervous on take off but its a good nervous

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 26/03/2025 08:46

It will be fine OP.

As others have said on the thread you might find it a bit noisy/bumpy at times but that is completely normal.
I had a period of a few years when I flew from Heathrow to Manchester every Tuesday morning and flew back on the Wednesday evening. Local flights are really just like a bus service - so I would try not to overthink it. I still enjoyed the take off each time though 😁.

PleaseDontFingerMyPouffe · 26/03/2025 08:51

@HoppingPavlova this made me laugh, you're not wrong!

I suppose if I'm being really honest touchdown can be more of a hard jolt than a bump too @firsttimeflyinghelp and remember what I in my first post about how noisy planes can be

notimagain · 26/03/2025 08:59

@HoppingPavlova

I laughed at the pp’s description of ‘there may be a slight delay’ when taxi’ing. Many is the time I’ve been on the tarmac for several hours. Reality being I could have flown there and back 2 or 3 times in the time we have been sitting there. Admittedly, my home airport is located in some abnormal high wind zone so this may play a part at both ends. But I have encountered it occasionally on unrelated routes also. Many is the time I have heard pilot’s apologise and say if they actually taxi out it makes it much harder for them to drag us back and cancel the flight and they also want to get home, so a delay of several hours is the lessor evil.

Reason for that in reality is that sometimes you can"t get in the queue in the ATC system thay allocates runway/takeoff slot until you are doors closed and you are ready to start. In those circumstances holding passengers off the aircraft isn't an option.

if you board, then get a slot and find out it's a fair way down the road you end up having to taxi off to free up the gate and remote hold while the clock ticks round...and yes it's a PITA.

NotDavidTennant · 26/03/2025 09:07

If you don't like heights then you may want to pick an aisle seat so that it's harder to see out of the window.

honeylulu · 26/03/2025 09:09

Well done OP for booking your first flight! I appreciate that you're nervous. I never flew as a child so I was very apprehensive when I started.

As everyone has said, it's a very safe way to travel. But that's easy to say!

I have a friend who is a very nervous flyer (she has a general anxiety disorder and gets very anxious about lots of things but flying was one of the worst.) She felt she was holding her family back because it limited holidays for them. In the end she did a fear of flying course at Gatwick etch she said was amazing. The "class" had a couple of hours tutorial in a room in the airport where a pilot and flight engineer told them all about the different parts of the plane, how it works, the mechanisms of taking off, cruising and landing and the physics of how the plane stays up in the air! Plus some tips on staying calm - breathing and short focusing exercises etc.

Then there was a short flight in a plane, just taking off, circling around Gatwick and landing again. She said only 2 out of the class of about 40 refused to do that bit. There was commentary during the flight going over what they has learned. She was absolutely elated.

I'm not suggesting you do the course - I think it was a couple of hundred quid but I expect there are some online tutorials on you tube which might help reassure you in the above ways.

Good luck! I think once you've done it, you will open up your world!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/03/2025 09:15

Re turbulence, many years ago I worked as cabin crew, and still remember the calm, soothing voice of a particular captain as we hit a bumpy patch, saying, ‘Nothing at all to worry about - it’s just like driving over cobblestones.’

I could see passengers very visibly relaxing - the hands clenched like vices on armrests releasing their grip!

I do hope it’ll be a lot less scary than you fear OP, 🫰.

notimagain · 26/03/2025 09:20

NotDavidTennant · 26/03/2025 09:07

If you don't like heights then you may want to pick an aisle seat so that it's harder to see out of the window.

The fear of heights thing is an interesting one, I think a pp mentioned being fine in the aircraft but not fine on the ground looking up (I think the context of a trip to Paris)….that really isn’t that unusual.

It’s almost literally a question of perspective/circumstances/context - I flew with one very experienced pilot who was fine doing the day job at umpteen thousand feet but when they got to destination for a night stop they really had to grit their teeth to get into hotel lifts and wouldn’t go near the room windows if the hotel was a high rise hotels and they were in a upper storey room.

JustAMum31 · 26/03/2025 22:43

notimagain · 26/03/2025 09:20

The fear of heights thing is an interesting one, I think a pp mentioned being fine in the aircraft but not fine on the ground looking up (I think the context of a trip to Paris)….that really isn’t that unusual.

It’s almost literally a question of perspective/circumstances/context - I flew with one very experienced pilot who was fine doing the day job at umpteen thousand feet but when they got to destination for a night stop they really had to grit their teeth to get into hotel lifts and wouldn’t go near the room windows if the hotel was a high rise hotels and they were in a upper storey room.

@notimagain That was me that mentioned Paris 😊

Completely understand the pilot on that one! It’s like when flying it’s almost too high for my brain to comprehend any kind of danger, if that makes any sense? But falling from a high building is a very real danger in my head 😂 I will absolutely fly thousands of miles in a plane and then select “low floor” on my hotel preferences and decline any excursions involving heights during my holiday 😂

coastergirl · 26/03/2025 23:35

OP if you want company on your flight let me know! Depending on when it is of course. I'm a complete aviation geek and will take any opportunity to fly. Flying is so safe, I can explain most scenarios and why pilots/airlines take the actions they do.

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