How often do you see your friends ?

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I have DH and teen DC. 1 friend wants to meet once a week plus either a Friday or Saturday night, every week. I like to spend at least one weekend night with DH/DC. But if I see this friend one weekend night every week and DH/DC on the other weekend night, then I have no time to see other friends/family on weekend nights.

What does everyone else do?

That sounds exhausting. I have a very small circle, we try to meet once a month but sometimes it can be longer as we have other commitments crop up, or we just cant be bothered on the day and we understand when one of us needs to cancel. As a PP said I try to prioritise family time, with 3 under 5 and working full time, life is very full on and exhausting. My main priority at the moment is spending time with my kids and DH. My friends understand this and do the same themselves. If your priorities dont align with your friend then you need to be honest and tell her its too much. Id love to see my friends more, and one day I will be able to prioritise them more when the kids are older.

One group I see weekly at a craft class and lunch maybe once a month.
Another group only about once every 2 months.
My best friend I only see about once every 3 months due to circumstances.
All feel just about right.

Two groups (school friends for 20+ years, and uni friends for 15+ years) maybe once a year, twice at a push due to living away from each other - but frequent contact through chat groups during the week.

One of my closest friends, 5 or 6 times a year - again due to living several hours apart now, probably have a phone call catch up once a month.

My other close friend and I live in the same town, we meet once a month for a meal in the local pub followed by bingo, she brings her mum and daughter along too. Probably pop round to see each other for a quick catch up and a cuppa separately once a month also.

It's enough for me. Lives are full of kids and partners and work and responsibilities and we all make do with differing frequencies of phone contact to maintain really good friendships.

I used to meet up with a couple of friends but it’s dwindled now. To be honest I’m not bothered. My good friends live nowhere near where we are now. As someone said, people are just happy to do their own thing and not meet up.
Tell your friend that weekends are inconvenient due to family time. That’s more important. If she doesn’t like it, then tough.