Poo being sent home?!

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I just need a sense check. We started toilet training our DS on Friday (he will be 3 in June). He has done really well with wee. Getting up in the middle of an activity to use the potty of his own accord. Really pleasantly surprised. Poo however is more difficult.

He went to nursery today for the first time in pants and did a poo in his pants. They have sent the soiled pants home in a bag (no problem with this obviously), but left the big solid poo in there! So actually sent home a big poo in a bag!! Thank god I checked before putting everything in the machine.

Is this normal?! I understand if it’s soft but a hard poo? The changing table is about a metre away from the toilet?! Feels very grim for them not to have just tipped it in the loo.

Is this normal at your children’s nursery?? Well aware I might be being ridiculous but does feel off!

It's not their job to deal with the soiled clothing - it's their job to deal with the soiled child - so they would have gone straight in a bag without any checking or examination.

Slightly worse than a three month old banana in a forgotten lunchbox, but not by much.

We had this with nursery from what I can remember. I think they just bagged everything up and sent home. I didn't mind as long as they properly cleaned up the child.

Mention it to them. Ask them to put it in the toilet before hand and you washed it in the machine.

We used reusable nappies with my eldest and it was hit and miss if they’d dispose of the poo tbh.

Mine always disposed of the pants in the bin if there was a poo accident, which I didn’t mind at all.

Ours did this. I didn’t mind too much.

it pissed me off the first few times they threw pants away without checking if I wanted to wash them. Which I did. So I would just tip the poo in the toilet and then wash the pants in the machine.

No that's disgusting. They don't need to be rinsing the underwear but there's no reason they can't flush the poo down the toilet. I've worked in several nurseries and this would have been unacceptable.

I think it is gross. I wouldn't expect that at all.

It does seem unnecessarily gross, unless it was very runny and stuck to the pants? I use reusable nappies and occasionally if it’s a slightly runny poo it comes home in the nappy in the bag, but usually it’s been flushed away. Bit different in my view though as the nappies are designed to contain poo!!

what you describe happened to my friend and she didn’t realise and washed the poo with a full load of washing…she discovered when she took the supposedly clean load out…took many washes before things smelt normal again!!

My nursery did this.

Where I work, if it's hard it gets chucked in the toilet. If it's soft we just throw the pants and the poo away. Maybe their policy is not too throw away clothing so they just always the whole thing up (by the far the majority are messy, especially if it's been sat in).

I’ve never had a full solid poo sent home, but definitely some more heavily soiled than I’d like to get home in a bag. A couple of times they’ve just thrown the pants out and apologised saying it was too far gone to be worth saving.

Mostly with any accidents the pants and trousers come off together and straight in a nappy bag.

My children’s nursery did this too. I never had a solid poo sent home in my child’s bag. Surely they could not have realised?!

My two went to nursery. Both had the occasional poo accident, not once did a turd get sent home. Thats disgusting.

I would feel like they were shaming my child if they did that! There’s no reason they couldn’t just deposit the poo in the toilet and bag up the pants. Leaving a solid, festering poo for you to discover is quite unkind!

I had it happen a couple of times once it was soild they apologised because that should have been thrown away the runny poo was how I discovered he had a really bad case of worms.....a heads up would have been nice it must have been really wriggling when they bagged it up as it was still obvious when I sorted it out later that day

We use cloth nappies and they normally just bag up the soiled ones, poo and all. I can see why they don't want to peel out the pooey liner to put in the bin, and there wouldn't even be a liner if it was soiled pants instead of a nappy. In this case, the changing tables are not in the same room as the toilet and even if they were, you couldn't leave the child on the table while you walked over to the toilet. So if it can't go straight into the adjacent bin, it's going in a bag.

My son just turned 4 has this a lot, both in nursery and at home.

It's actually very difficult to flush some of his poos because of their consistency. Cleaning the pants is only really possibly under a shower head on full hot mode. Even then it's not a done job as I still stick them in for a boil wash.

I can understand why they aren't properly cleaned in the nursery setting. They could have 2 or 3 kids to an adult to maintain the adult/kid ratios in the room and in the toilets.

I'd just accept it will happen until the potty training matures.

I think it’s gross!

I used to manage a nursery and we would dispose of poo in the toilet and bag the pants/soiled clothes.

I think it’s normal. Butttt doesn’t the poopy bag stink the hallway out at nursery??

My childminder offered to bin the whole lot for me. It was a long while back but a pair of pants from a multipack from Primark worked out about 1.5 x the cost per nappy. My child was soiling there a couple of times a week for a couple of weeks. She'd obviously been going through several nappies a day, so I figured it was still cheaper!

I'd ask them to.do this. That's what ours did. I would expect them to be seperating out poo but id also rather just lose the pants. It was only a week or so before he was reliable anyway so probably 3 or 4 pairs.

The nursery I worked at made us toss the poo and rinse the pants because it wasn't nice for parents to deal with heavily soiled pants. Anyone who skipped a rinsing got pulled down for a talk about "standards".

Completely irrelevant but management also constantly complained that we were spending too much time off the floor, leaving other staff out of ratio. It was the 2-3 room. There was multiple accidents a day.

Yeah it's normal IME. I just used to bin the bag.

So a mixed bag pardon the pun! I am tempted to talk to them about it but I might just ask what their policy is. I genuinely think I’d rather they just threw the whole thing away. And if they have a policy of not tipping a solid poo in a toilet that’s probably the best option!