Hi there, I really hear you. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it’s completely normal to feel stuck and unsure after such challenging experiences. It can be exhausting when past relationships leave you feeling ghosted or undervalued, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
I found that focusing on rebuilding your confidence first, before diving back into dating, makes a huge difference. Even small practices like journaling your strengths, setting boundaries, and spending time on things that bring you joy can help reset your perspective. I came across Joy Potential recently, and their approach to cultivating inner joy and self-worth really resonated with me. It emphasizes reconnecting with your own happiness first, which makes attracting a healthy, committed partner feel much more possible.
You’re also wise to reflect on the dynamics with your ex and his family. Sometimes loving someone isn’t enough if the environment consistently adds stress or anxiety. Protecting your mental health and your child’s wellbeing is crucial, and it’s okay to prioritize that over reconciling with your ex.
One practical tip that helped me: start by identifying what a truly supportive partner looks like to you and the boundaries you want in place. It makes dating clearer and helps avoid patterns where you feel undervalued.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it can get better with time, self-care, and support. Keep leaning into your own joy, and the rest will follow.