Feeling poorly and being looked after

[Agane]

I'm unwell, just feeling wiped out. I don't need looking after, I've looked after myself in similar situations for years.

BF stayed last night. Has been lovely about cancelling our (very active) plans for the day and said he'll spend the day looking after me instead.

His plan is:

After making me tea and making sure I'd got meds if I wanted then, he went home about 11am to give me 3 hours me time for a nap.

He's booked Sunday roast for us both. By coincidence a group of friends are going out for lunch, this didn't fit with out original plans for the day, but as they've been cancelled we could go. I said I didn't fancy the noise or effort of all those people, but he could go. He's "decided" we'll go out alone.

There's a coaching thing we've been talking about joining late Sunday afternoons. He's suggested we could take a walk over and watch, see what it's like.

Then go for a short easy watching film at the cinema. We have the unlimited cards so there's no cost and we've watched some really long, hard going films recently!

Then he'll come back and tuck me in for an early night.

He means well and it's nice he wants to be with me, even though I'm not my sparkly self, but...

He'd be fine if I said I don't want to do any of it, but maybe I will feel better for getting out?

If you're not well why on earth is he suggesting going out for a roast, film and a walk? Just stay home and rest.

He want to make me feel better...

Stay home and rest. Jeez.

And for most people staying home and resting is what helps them feel better. Not going out for a meal and going to the cinema.

(I'll caveat by saying I assume you are physically ill)

It all sounds a bit much.

If I was him I'd just cook you a Sunday roast and suggest a day on the sofa together.

So what’s your point?

you’re not well. He’s cancelled the active plans, and come up with some suggestions that are easier, and will get you out if you feel up to it.

however you’ve said he doesn’t have a problem if you just want to stay home.

so again, what’s the point? Do you feel up to a gentle walk and the cinema, or do you want to stay home. Decide, then tell him.

I'm not saying he's right, just that he's well intentioned

This sounds like a lot of fussing and a bit OTT when it sounds like you just need to rest. I’d send him out on his own and enjoy some peace.

He obviously means well, but ideally you should be resting if you’re poorly. Can’t he cook you food and can you watch a movie at home together instead?

If you're feeling wiped out that's your bodies way of telling you to slow down.

So what are you asking?

I must admit I've just re-read the OP but I'm still non the wiser.

OP, just tell him you want to stay in.

There'll be plenty of other weekends to go out together.

I’m in bed ill today, I have only got up
To go to the bathroom, no way would
i feel up
to doing any of that. I’m reading, sleeping and sipping tea.

tell him thanks but no thanks.

'Tuck me up in bed' gave me the ick🤢

The activities sound like more than I do on a day where I'm not feeling shite 😂

Not really sure what you're asking us OP. But if you're ill please stay home and rest and avoid contaminating anyone else.

That’s all a bit intense. Why can’t he just tuck you in and bring you soup and tablets when you’re ill?

Surely a meal out, a coaching session (whatever that is) and cinema Is quite a full on Sunday. Not a poorly one.

anyway, what’s you point / question / gripe op?