Manipulation or not?

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A bit of background:

I had abusive parents as a child. My mother was both physically and emotionally abusive but more that she was just neglectful. As a result I am low contact.

I have one child ("Holly") with additional health and emotional needs who I look after alone, I have never had any support or help from my mother or anyone else.

Due to recent events I am now no contact with my mother.

Since being nc my mother will constantly harass me via email, turn up at my building (I live in an apartment and she keeps ringing my intercom), she will call me from different numbers and she even started booking the hotel next to my house so she could email me telling me she's next door and can come around.

Yesterday I receive this email. I'm just wondering what thoughts are on it. Is it manipulative?
I struggle with words to describe her behaviour.

"I will continue to give Holly pocket money.
I miss talking to you both, and am not seeing Holly grow up.
Life is short we can only concentrate on future.
Holly needs to know her granny. She misses me "OP".
Life is short and we don't want regrets.

She's using the only thing that she knows will get to you - your daughter.

To be honest I would screenshot everything and contemplate going to the police for harrassment at this point.

It's so hard to break away from an abusive parent, so well done 💐 you're protecting your daughter from the shit you went through.

Providing you have documentary proof that you have asked your mother to leave you alone, I would now go to the police about this.

You have a right to a private and family life and this is harassment.

In the event you have not got written evidence that you want no relationship with your Mother, I urge to get this in bulk ASAP including telling her that if her behaviour doesn't stop, you will take legal action.

Make sure the school or playgroup that your child is at knows that she is not on the list for collecting.

She's just rang my intercom again. I said I'm fine and to leave and hung up. She's then waited for someone else to come into my building (15 minutes) so she could follow them in. She's knocked on my door, I've ignored. She's then put a note in my letterbox then rang the intercom again and said she's put a note in my letterbox. She's then rung again saying can I call her later. I said I don't need to call you. She said she needs to "make sure" everything is ok. I said no.

I'm getting sick and tired of this.

She seems to think she's a coparent. If I have an appointment for my daughter she will say she needs to "make sure that I've understood what has happened in the appointment." If I'm unwell or something she'll demand I take pictures and send to her so she can "make sure that I'm correct."

Never thought I'd have to call the police but I'm getting so annoyed! I can't even just let Amazon etc in on the intercom in case it's her.

Thank you for the reassurance. ❤️

Yes I first told her months ago very clearly to not turn up at my home again. I've repeated this again and again but she won't listen. 😩

She will email me saying "call" I say why and she will invent something

Thank you. Yes I have proof and I've told her repeatedly.

I'm wondering if I can get the police to have a word with her before doing a full harassment report? I don't even know why I'm hesitant tbh, she used to call the police on me as a child when I was having autistic meltdowns (i wasn't violent, she was violent to me)

This is really persistent harassment.

I was wondering who is responsible for building security where you live, because other residents shouldn't really be letting random people in the door.

I think you can. DH was job but he's not here for me to ask.

I think you can have it logged and they can simply have a word in the first instance but having it recorded is important.

Yeah I will raise this with them to send out a reminder for residents as it's dangerous. Especially as she would have just been stood outside the building for 15 minutes not even ringing the intercom.

Thank you. I'm going to do this.

I've just seen an email "I'm knocking on your door" sent when she was outside my door. I've just also watched the Ring footage. She was listening at the door to see if she could hear what we were doing.

Now I think I'm wrong. Just spoke to my step mum who said the police won't do anything because she's my mum.