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Advice on how to tackle teen dd

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Openingupmore · 21/03/2025 21:58

My dd nearly 16 and is a lovely girl. Never had any issues in school.
She's a bit different at home, typical teen girl but she and ds have a very antagonistic relationship (he's younger)
They have quite different temperaments and interests.
The issue is my son is hurt and is in a lot of pain he's been hobbling along for months it's impacted his activities. Last week she was really annoying him taunting him and ended up tearing a note of his a bit. I told her to go upstairs away from him, then he just burst into tears sobbing uncontrollably. After soothing him I went upstairs and tried to talk to her but she was just so nonchalant so I told her off. She has been so quiet since then hardly said a word and everytime I try and talk to her I just get the basics.
How do I approach this with her? I go withdrawn when I'm upset so really need help vocalising and to open communication up. Any advice is appreciated.

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TotallyForgettableForNow · 21/03/2025 22:22

You seem more concerned about her than the poor child she tormented so much he sobbed uncontrollably. Why?
Personally I would tell her to pull her socks up and behave like a 16 year old, not a 6 year old and apologise profusely to her brother.

Openingupmore · 21/03/2025 22:38

Its not that I'm more concerned about one than the other, but I've spoke to ds, consoled him at the time and he's fine now. However dd is clearly not OK weather she's sulking or upset I don't know and want to tackle the issue but I don't know how.

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Dontlletmedownbruce · 21/03/2025 22:51

Get her out for a walk or a spin in the car, just the two of you. Talk about other stuff. Ask her what's up and if she doesn't tell you just chat and let her know you'll be there for her whenever. Talk to her obviously about her brother and how he is having a hard time and see what she says. If she absolutely will not talk to you there is little you can do but just let her know you are there.

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