Constant worry about weight

[Newyorklady]

Do any of you constantly worry about your weight.
I do.
I think it stems from me going from obese to healthy weight in lockdown. Lost nearly 4 stone. Felt much happier with how I looked and healthier as well.
I managed to maintain it until last year, and 2 stone has crept back in.
I feel constantly depressed about it as really don’t want to go back to being obese.
I’ve started cutting back but takes forever to lose due to now being in perimenopause.
Feel I can’t even have a weekend off and it piles back on.
Anyone else feel the same ?

Yup. I’m sick to bloody death of it. My mum was the same until the day she died. I’m trying very hard to accept I’ll never again have the body I had when I was 20 - which I hated back then, by the way.

It’s all very sad.

Yep. Ive stayed the same weight since my early teens and im completely obsessed with my weight/body. Even when i get a ‘perfect’ weigh in im still not satisfied with my body. I only eat in a 3 hour window monday - friday and do weights at the gym 5 days a week. Worries like this can take over your life even if your have achieved your desired weight. Its messed up but id rather be like this than not care and pile on weight.

You're going to hate me ... but I stick by my advice! The worrying & being depressed about your body size is making you put on weight. Do your level best (and a bit more) to fall in love with your body. Love the amazing way it works, the miracle of biomechanics that it is! Love the way it feels. Have nice, long baths or showers with body scrubs that smell nice. Massage your wonderful body all over with lotion, feel how silky soft your skin. Wear clothes that fit, admire the way they fit, show it all off with your head up, back straight, chest out and a proud smile. Walk like you own the pavement. Enjoy being your gorgeous self.

Don't think about depriving yourself - instead, think about honouring your body's natural appetites. If you don't particularly want anything to eat right now, don't have anything to eat. If you do want something - what do you want? Really want, not what you'd settle for or even a 'forbidden treat'. Give it a minute's thought. Do your best to get the exact food you wish for: if you have to go and buy it, cook it or order it in, do that. You deserve the right thing for you at that time, as far as possible.

You're fabulous! Own it, enjoy it, show it off 😍

Look forward to your meals.

Eat delicious food. Slowly. Savour it. Enjoy it.

Smile at yourself in the mirror. Look at your reflection the way you look at your best friend or your DC - notice what's lovely, not what some evil critic might say if you were auditioning for a beauty contest. (I tell myself this stuff out loud, ymmv).

If you do your hair and makeup, stand back and appreciate that you look good. When you look at other people, you don't itemise their flaws, do you? Why the hell would you treat yourself worse than you treat random strangers in the shops?

Did I mention ... you're fabulous! Not just you, we're all fabulous (well, most of us). Time to love that about yourself.

Worrying won't make weight dissapear so why would i want to look back on life and say to my self 'I wish I worried more'

I love that, @GarlicStyle.

I hate hearing other people put themselves down all the time. It’s not a good look for a grown up, and a bit cringey. Then I realised that’s what I must sound like to others.

Time to stop. It’ll be hard though, it’s a reflex action after 50 years.

I think the only way is to totally change your approach to nutrition and your lifestyle; if you view food like ‘having a weekend off’ that suggests like the instinct to make poor choices and blow out is still there; as is the idea that healthy living should feel like deprivation or a grind.
The only way I’ve avoided yo yoing with my weight is to stop dieting or counting calories and just switch to a long term total change to the way I view nutrition. So I’ve just cut out ultra processed foods as far as possible (without stressing about the small percentage of things that will be upf on occasion), no white pasta or rice or pizza, no sugar that doesn’t come from fruit (apart from occasional maple syrup or honey as a sweetener in baking). No crap basically. I home cook as much as I can. For the first time in my life I don’t feel hungry all the time or crave crap food and then binge. When I am hungry, I eat. But I choose things that are nutritious so I end up feeling full and good about myself.

How would you say your diet is ?

My diet is ok to be honest. I had a complete change of approach in lockdown. When I say off weekend off I mean maybe a few drinks and a takeaway but there’s once a month.
Husband doesn’t help much as he has quite bad habits so it impacts on me if he cooks. He dies this on nights where I travel back from work as he wfh.
I do need to change that but I think.
BMI is 29 now so classed as Overweight ideally I want to be 25.

Yep, it consumes me!
I’m 54 and the same weight I was when I was a teenager, if I go even slightly above it I panic and don’t feel like ‘me’
God knows where it comes from? My mum had a really healthy attitude towards food and her weight and miraculously I’ve raised 2 children who are healthy and super body positive.
I’ve just accepted that this is me for life, I’m only truly happy when I’m very slim so I calorie count and restrict myself constantly to remain this way.