What made your life easier ?

[GreenCandleWarmth]

Now I'm in my 30s I've started to make my life easier and realise how much time I wasted.
I let bitchy work colleagues get on with it and don't get embroiled.
I let flaky friends go.
I love my job but it's a job so no more sleepless nights or worry.
My ex doesn't parent the way I do. I let him get on with it as I can't change it.
Life is so much easier.

Do you know if any of those plants work in shady areas? You sounds like you known your gardening stuff.

My now husband.

before I met him I was a struggling single mum to 3 working full time.

since I met him and the support he gives me life has gotten so much easier

Having a cleaner.

Paying 50p a book to request books from my town central library be sent to the branch library near my house.

Buying a big back pack with cushioned straps and a laptop pouch.

Me and DP sleeping in separate beds.

Rediscovering cheese and salami penne pasta from student days.

Monthly cake subscription.

Slow down and smell the roses. Getting outside as much as possible. Makes me calmer and nicer. And the weather is rarely as bad as it looks when you are sitting inside staring out the window. Anyway the dog won't go out if it's really bad....

Living alone
Working part time - I chose time over money, and I can work part time OOH and part time self employed; together gives me enough money to get by. I'll never be rich but I have time to do what I want (which, fortunately, is usually cheap)
Having lovely neighbours (I realise this isn't under my control though)
Never mind a hoover, having a laptop upstairs and one downstairs is good for me - I have a steep narrow staircase and endangered my life going up and down carrying a laptop with trailing wires!
Not watching TV. Or, at least, selecting things I WANT to watch rather than letting programmes scroll along in front of me mindlessly. (I am less good at this one).

Putting the dishwasher on at least once a day rather than going ‘oh, I’ll just hand wash these last bits’.

Upgrading my Ocado pass to anytime delivery so I don’t need to plan a full week of meals at once/go to the shops to top up fresh fruit and veg - I just do a shop when I need, we eat better as I have more fresh stuff, and the fridge and freezer are less cluttered.

Cleaner

Ocado

Yoga everyday! This is the biggest change and best thing I ever started

The fatsia (japonica) and ferns are doing well in the shade. We have a bed that barely gets any sun.

Givibg in and paying for school lunches rather than making packed lunch

Eufy robovac

I don't have anything deep and meaningful to add.

Retiring. Antidepressants. Estrogen cream. Binning off toxic people. All have changed my life beyond measure x

Money.

Which exercises in particular. I need to get back to the gym

No longer having the energy to overthink everything 🙂

Changing my job from my high stress role. On paper I took a pay cut but I now do weekends and nights which works for me so I earn more and have more time to do bank!

For me definitely prioritising my inner happiness and down time. I like to paint, pottery, sewing, knit garden etc and it helps me to unwind to do an hour of any of these. Of course my children have grown up and gone but I still work full time and look after elderly parents and a house and dog! Added to this, shed the guilt! There is no rule that you should be a perfect parent/wife/child etc., your life is so precious and short so live it as best you can filled with what makes you happy. Ditch those shit partners and so called friends who make you feel upset and worthless! We were all my given one life and I realised I never was going to waste a day of it again feeling so wretched and unhapppy. I know I am a good,kind person (even after a lot of trauma). And I realised it’s other humans that make you feel bad, not nature or yourself etc. so don’t let anyone make your daily life awful. Remember you will never live this day again

Ok yeah but I just got a second one this week and it is so much easier 😂

Hard to tell which made the most difference but I think the squats and the bridges. I'm also doing quite a bit of weight exercises for my arms which have made a big difference. But it is my bladder improvement that has made my life easier!

Just to balance out the divorces, having a very very useful husband. Really well done me, I made an excellent choice.

Telling myself many of us are learning at life as we go and doing the best we can.. for a long time I used to think everyone else seemed to have it all worked out apart from me!

What happened to your kids??

Saying no (and meaning it).

Realising that just because they are family that it doesn’t mean that you should accept bad behaviour.

Gousto

Little and often with the housework instead of one big clean.

Working to live rather than living to work.

Realising that I prefer holidays to things. So that’s what I work for.

Oh and living in a bungalow so I don’t have any of this upstairs/downstairs shit.

See also living in a secluded location with no neighbours 😂

But then how do you decide which vacuum to use for the stairs?!

More, and extra long, phone chargers.

The realisation that if they wanted to, they would. There’s a woman (Mel Robbins???) who does the “let them” theory.

The realisation that you can’t read every brilliant book or watch every fantastic tv programme.