Needing some advice regarding my 2 children and their friend . They ds is 8 other ds is 9 and thr friend is 9.
The friend Tony has been friends with ds9 since nursery so a long time. They used to have a fantastic friendship Tony was so kind to ds . Ds has autism and learning difficulties and he was always really kind to him. Recently things there's been a shift in their friendship ds9 says Tony won't allow him to play with other people at school and will tell him he can't and stop him from playing. Sometime back another parent had mentioned to me that Tony controls who ds plays with. I asked ds if this was true but he said no . Its just that Ben is trying ti take him away from Toby. I explained to ds he can play with who he wants to . And I thiightvthere was nothing in it. Now I know there was. Ds won't stand up for himself because he finds it hard and he also doesn't want to hurt toys feelings. Its parent teacher meeting soon and ds said he's happy for me to bring it up .
Another issue is Tony had a girlfriend called Claire This is on line gaming. I didn't know this girl and had not managed to hear her voice. So I asked Tony's mum if she knows her. And she confirm she's a child whos also 9 years old. I have heard her voice several times now but had not at the time. She then told me that Tony had blocked Claire because she had said things that really upset him and she swears Tony does not like that sort of thing so he blocked her.
After a while Tony decided to unblock Claire abd they started playing again Tony then stated kicking ds8 out if games they were playing as a group. And started saying it was ds8 fault that Tony and Claire broke up. Because ds8 liked Claire and got jealous. Ds8 come to me crying saying Tony was blaming him. And he feels singled out. And no one will let him play.
I saud to ds8 not to worry it will be ok in the morning when your at school. So we left it at that I asked ds8 if Tony was OK at school today and he told me that he still kept saying to him it was his fault that him and Clare stopped talking.
Couple of things I forgot the dad went in and asked the kids what had happened so they explained and he had said Tony woukd not do that he's a nice boy.
Last night ds8 had sent a couple of messages whilst crying saying why are you blaming me your making me feel singled out. There was not a reply. Then he stated on ds8 tonight. So I told ds8 and I that they can't play with Tony for a while I said they medd a break from each other. Tony then told ds 8 . Ask your mum to unban ds9. Because Tony had upset ds8 to the point of crying I said only if Tony apologies abd stood with the nastiness. Which he did apologies. But the ln it started again.
Now apprently the dad is going to have a word with me to tell me the truth.