Burnout

[StJulian2023]

I don’t want solutions (I have tried so, so many things). I just want to say I’m so very burnt out from raising my DC alone, especially the Y11 neurodivergent one who’s about to leave school with no qualifications. And we still miss my late DH.

I just want to be heard. Someone to say “Yes, these are valid reasons why you’d feel so burnt out. It is a lot to work, and run a household, and grieve, and raise challenging DC alone.” It feels as though everyone thinks I’m invincible. But sadly no special powers have come with my life.

And I send love to you if your life is also too much right now, for whatever reason. May there be pockets of peace.

I just wanted to say you are not alone , I’m sorry I don’t have any advice for you but I hear you , and your post really resonates with me , sending love

I hear you, and send you strength

Thank you both

You’re not alone. I have two teens with Sen and it’s exhausting especially with the 13 year old who is profoundly disabled with multiple disabilities. I should’ve been working today but spent the day laying on the sofa crying. I am exhausted by life. And you’re doing it alone which makes it even harder. Today I realised there’s no village, there’s no magic fix, no one is coming. Big hugs.

And I’m so glad you don’t have advice, I hate advice.

Anyone bringing up children after bereavement is strong.
You are a good person. Kudos

Much love, Ferrygirl1 life can be just too hard and for too long.

Ach not really, just without choice. But thanks. I’ll always want the best for them. But oh my word, 8+ years and counting doing it all alone

@StJulian2023 no advice from me here. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be.

I wish I could have just one early night. It would make such a difference.

We hear you
It’s very hard. Your life is hard. I’m sorry it’s not easier for you.

Is there any way in the world that can happen?

Loads of hugs. It is too much. There should be some sort of kindly aunt type rescue service to helicopter someone in to help lift the load for a while and sit around knitting in a reassuring way.

No, eldest roams around and interrupts until gone 11. Often he’s distressed and then I need time to wind down after dealing with the upset. And my alarm goes off at 6.30am. Sometimes I get enough sleep on Fri or Sat night but I could do with a bit more

I go away with work for 36 hours twice a year. It’s work but I’ve joked it’s the closest I get to a retreat. There’s a lot of fallout to deal with when I get back. There are a lot of reasons why this can’t happen more often and I always pay a price after

I hear you. So refreshing to hear a voice like yours. I don't have a bereavement to deal with but 2 teenagers one with mild issues and the other off the scale unfortunately. I am completely burnt out. So exhausted and burnt out I don't even know where to look for support

I hear you. Recovering from sudden traumatic bereavement and two ND children. Chronic health conditions, it’s exhausting. Sympathy and solidarity

Much love to you both

I am about to eat cheese. I find cheese helps

Seeking support is mental load, isn’t it? I don’t think everyone gets that

✊yep I hear you too

I'm another lone parent to ND children. Currently signed off work with burnout, physically and emotionally exhausted after trying to juggle it all for 6 years.

It’s good you are signed off but I’m sorry you’ve needed to be. I hope it means you get some chinks of time to feel a tiny bit like yourself.

It’s easy to forget that we are people and we matter.

Just had a row with eldest because I asked him not to come into my room so I could have half an hour on my own with no one asking me anything before bed. Obviously this is impossible, and it was suggested that if I need this time there’s something wrong with me, and I should see a Dr 🤣 many thanks, DC…

Just been interrupted again. Oh my word. And Thursday is often a school refusal day. And I’ve got a lot of work to do tomorrow.