SEND support/diagnosis for a child who is ‘doing well’

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I feel like my child is increasingly struggling at school (now Year 5) and is often unhappy but since they behave well and achieve decent grades, they aren’t going to be identified as requiring support by the school.

My child is getting really anxious about tests, rarely finishes one in the allotted time and really struggles to remain focused in lessons and when we’re completing homework. A 20 minute homework will take at least an hour but when it’s done, the quality is good.

We’ve noticed a lot of fidgeting and skin picking, plus emotional outbursts.

There is also an additional issue with ‘perfectionism’ and making sure everything is just so. They have to go back and check a lot, second guessing themselves. There are other behaviours I would describe as compulsive like excessive hand washing, ritual behaviours and overthinking the ‘worst case scenario’. They have had some sessions with the local mental health team.

The teacher agrees that there is an issue with focus and the time it takes to complete tasks and says that we could consider seeing the GP. However, I want to know the best way to approach this so I can be assertive with both the school and GP. Is a private consultation worth it and if so, what type of professional? Any recommendations and ideas of prices? I’ve heard of people spending a fortune and then not having the private results accepted.

Is an Ed Psych best or should I find someone that can diagnose any potential conditions?

I don't think it's unusual to spend more than the allotted 20 minutes on homework. Both my children did that. With regards to the other points you could ask for an appointment with the school SENCO to voice your concerns and also see your GP. They should both be able to point you in the right direction for getting help.

What type of additional support do you feel is needed? Support doesn’t rely on a diagnosis, but whether there is need.

I you think an EHCNA would help, you can request that yourself.

Mainly the option of extra time. From what I understand it needs to be in place before exams as the usual way of working.
currently he is not finishing tests and/or taking some of break to finish. He then feels like he’s being punished but the teachers are clear it’s not a punishment!

Yes, it does need to be the normal way of working. If his teachers know that he doesn’t finish a piece of work or a test in the allotted time, that can be evidence that more time is needed. That doesn’t have to have a diagnosis, but it is evidence of need, particularly if it can be demonstrated and quantified what the difference is when extra time is allowed.

I would request a meeting with the SENDCo at school and express your concerns.