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Feeling not performing at best

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Mirren22 · 18/03/2025 22:24

I’m not sure how to quite describe this feeling, almost feels like inadequacy or incompetency at outside of work activities and often feeling like I should be doing better. For context, I’m a lawyer and enjoy my job, it can be stressful at times and requires a lot of mental exercise. I WFH so I make an effort to get out and about after work, I love physical exercise (enjoy gym classes 3 times a week) and go to a language class twice a week. I’ve met other people through these hobbies which is an added bonus. However, in the past few months, I have this over hanging feeling of not being good enough / should be performing better, feel like bottom of the class outside of work. Normally I have a good routine, always out the door by 12 for lunch walk and prep healthy food but over Winter I feel like I could lie in late, have been getting up much later on weekends (no kids) and feeling a bit out whack! I do spend most of the week alone and wondering whether I’m just in my own thoughts too much. Any advice on how to feel more positive / stop being so hard on yourself?

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MiddleAgedDread · 19/03/2025 06:28

How old are you? Sounds a bit like perimenopause symptoms.

Mirren22 · 19/03/2025 14:26

Wondered the same, 38

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TheDandyLion · 19/03/2025 15:11

You are allowed to rest. You don't have to give it all 100% all the time. From what you've mentioned you're working, you're active and you have hobbies. Just be consistant with it. You don't have to be performing well to enjoy life.

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