First of all op, pat yourself on the back! You live a very full-on life! And you are doing incredibly well to be spinning so many plates,
You don’t have enough headspace atm though so you need to make some time in your schedule just for yourself. Perhaps start once a week on a Sunday? Or a Tuesday evening? Whatever works for you?
Remember this will probably involve saying “no” to something else and that’s ok. One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, your husband, and your dc, is feeling good, healthy and confident in yourself.
It’s a great example to set for your dc too who are learning to value and look after themselves. They will be watching how you do this!
Schedule it in and don’t let anyone or anything, except an extreme emergency, encroach upon that time. It will soon become a habit.
Perhaps start with aiming to be healthy rather than cool? But again, whatever works best for you?
You can use the time to menu plan for the week. Book a hair or dental appt (if booking is on-line)? Plan your exercise schedule. Organise your clothes for the week ahead.
Have a bath, a face mask, a hair mask, shave your legs, apply moisturiser and a light fake tan. Give yourself a manicure and a pedicure. Meditate or pray. Write a journal. Breathe and clarify your thoughts.
Go through your clothes in your wardrobe, try things on and discard others. Gather together some accessories and little extras like some lavender oil or a lovely scent to lift your mood. Perhaps some jewellery or a new summer handbag and sandals? None of it needs to be expensive. Some well chosen accessories like a belt or a classic bracelet can make all the difference. As can a good haircut.
And gradually start adding in a few more good habits like a walk at lunchtime or a weekly yoga class. Do not let these extra things become a burden though or run you ragged! The key is not trying to do it all but to swap something you do already and replace it with something you do for others! There are only so many hours in the day!