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Taking a reception-aged child out of school for a holiday?

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Anonymouse2019 · 18/03/2025 20:22

Hi,

My eldest child is 5 and in reception. Like thousands of other families, we can't afford a holiday in school holidays due to the price hikes. Our children have never been on holiday (circumstantial as well as financial). Just a weekend away over a year ago.

We're not well off, but not on the breadline either. We're privileged to have what we do, which is enough to cover bills and very small luxuries (like the occasional day out with the children). We have been through extreme trauma and desperately need a break to recharge and refocus.

We want to go on a week's holiday in June, but it's in term time. My daughter would miss 5 days of school. My youngest child is 2 and in a nursery so not obliged to be there. We'd also pay the nursery fees for that week even if he isn't there, as with his 15 free hours there's not much to pay anyway as he doesn't attend full time.

What do we do? I understand there may be a fine to pay. If our 5 year old is 'only' missing 5 days there might not be one at all.

Obviously I take my child's education very seriously. I never pull her out of school unless she has an unavoidable hospital appointment. I am concerned how much she'd miss in five days. That said, I also believe children and their families deserve, need and benefit hugely from a holiday. I believe holidays are educational and important for bonding, playing, exploring and learning. I believe that break is as important for parents and children alike.

Do we tell school and take the hit? What's the process? Do I need to put it in writing to the headteacher?

Thanks in advance.

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WateryBottle · 18/03/2025 20:26

No judgment on taking her out in Reception, but I think 5 days will incur a fine.

Im sorry your family has had a hard time and I hope you have a lovely holiday 💐

Rachierach11 · 18/03/2025 21:38

Unfortunately 5 days will most likely get a fine but it will be £160 (£80 per parent) rather than the thousands extra you will pay in the school holidays. Your reception child will catch up in school. You can always ask the teacher or a classmate which phonics they were learning that week and you could work on it at home once you’re back if you’re worried.

the process for informing the school will be different at every school. Ours is an online form. You won’t be the first family to do this so if you ask the admin staff at school they’ll tell you what to do x

ThatMrsM · 18/03/2025 21:40

I think you would receive a fine for 5 days (although I don't think you get one for less than 5 days?). I would check for your area, there should be information on the council website. The fine is £80 although I'm sure I've read somewhere that each parent has to pay for the child so £160 in total...worth checking.

My son's school has an online form to request 'leave for exceptional circumstances' so a holiday would most likely go unauthorized but they would have the absence on record. My son is in reception too, he hasn't been off yet but planning on 2 days off school in June when we have some relatives from overseas visiting. I think in reception it should be fine, your daughter will catch up.

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Youcancallmeirrelevant · 18/03/2025 21:41

Just factor the cost of the fine (£160) in to your holiday cost. 5 days (10 sessions) will incur a fine. Enjoy! Everyone I know takes their kids out of school for holidays!

Differentstarts · 18/03/2025 21:55

Go and enjoy your holiday and don't feel guilty about it. Our school has an online form

wherewasoldmcdonalsdfarm · 18/03/2025 21:59

ahhh I wouldn’t be worried with a reception child. Personally I wouldn’t mention it to the school and call on Monday morning and say they are ill and problem solved. There’s kids who are homeschooled who don’t have to worry about such fines, children from other cultures like the traveller community who don’t need to worry about fines or children who refuse to go to school and they don’t get fined for a week off so I say go for it and just say they are unwell. It’s a one off

littleluncheon · 18/03/2025 22:02

Can you take her out for 4 days instead? Even if it means collecting her from school after lunch on the first day.
Then you should avoid the fine.

rivalsbinge · 18/03/2025 22:02

Just go enjoy 😊

Creamsnackered · 18/03/2025 22:04

Ridiculously, if your child turned 5 in May or beyond, you wouldn't be fined. It's only those born in the autumn and spring terms who are of compulsory school age and whose parents will face fines, which really highlights how silly the whole thing is. Take the holiday and don't worry about it.

watchuswreckthemic · 18/03/2025 22:04

I’d absolutely do it. I have done it when my dad was still alive and he was desperate to take me and my kids away but owing to his health conditions couldn’t cope in the busy times. We didn’t get a fine or a telling off, times have changed but I don’t can’t ever imagining regretting those memories.

Bournetilly · 18/03/2025 22:05

I think it’s fine to take her out, go and enjoy yourselves. Unfortunately you will get a fine for 5 days though.

AubreysMonkey · 18/03/2025 22:06

wherewasoldmcdonalsdfarm · 18/03/2025 21:59

ahhh I wouldn’t be worried with a reception child. Personally I wouldn’t mention it to the school and call on Monday morning and say they are ill and problem solved. There’s kids who are homeschooled who don’t have to worry about such fines, children from other cultures like the traveller community who don’t need to worry about fines or children who refuse to go to school and they don’t get fined for a week off so I say go for it and just say they are unwell. It’s a one off

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Don’t lie to the school and say they’re ill - it’s a bad example to set your child and makes it awkward for them when they return and can’t talk about their holiday. Tell school they will be absent, you appreciate it will be unauthorised but wanted to be transparent with the school … suck the fine up and have a lovely holiday ☀️and - bonus - the school won’t think you’re an arsehole for the next 5 years! 😆

DontWantNoScrub · 18/03/2025 22:07

Yep! Do it. They are so young its not going to have any impact on them whatsoever.

Even if you incur a fine it will still be way less than the robbing bastard airlines and holiday companies will charge for you to take them in term time. Just pay it, you will still come out quids up and at that age it won't harm them at all.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 18/03/2025 22:07

If you decide to go, have a lovely time but do be honest with school.

ours are older now but we used to take them out of school for a week every year and never had any fines.

wherewasoldmcdonalsdfarm · 18/03/2025 22:12

AubreysMonkey · 18/03/2025 22:06

Don’t lie to the school and say they’re ill - it’s a bad example to set your child and makes it awkward for them when they return and can’t talk about their holiday. Tell school they will be absent, you appreciate it will be unauthorised but wanted to be transparent with the school … suck the fine up and have a lovely holiday ☀️and - bonus - the school won’t think you’re an arsehole for the next 5 years! 😆

OP the school won’t think your an arsehole.

but either way you should 100 percent go on holiday. Have a lovely time

TeenLifeMum · 18/03/2025 22:24

As others say, 5 days are likely to incur the fine so factor it in or look at the bank holiday week that isn’t half term so it is only 4 days (we did this in reception and when dd1 was in year 4 to travel to Canada and USA respectively to visit family - no regrets, my dc now have relationships with cousins they didn’t have before).

AubreysMonkey · 18/03/2025 22:29

wherewasoldmcdonalsdfarm · 18/03/2025 22:12

OP the school won’t think your an arsehole.

but either way you should 100 percent go on holiday. Have a lovely time

The term ‘arsehole’ may have been unnecessarily flippant. I’m a teacher and if a parent blatantly lies to me and - even worse - encourages their child to lie, they certainly go down in my estimations.

user2848502016 · 18/03/2025 23:16

Just do it

Anonymouse2019 · 18/03/2025 23:43

Thank you.

I have absolutely no intention on lying to school. No point. They'd know we were lying but also, my daughter would be talking about her holiday on her return the following week.

I'll have a look for an online form now. Thanks everyone!

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TicketyBoo11 · 18/03/2025 23:53

Your holiday will be unauthorised but it is at your Headteachers discretion whether they pursue a fine or not. Fill in your school application form with a full, truthful reason why you are planning the absence. No one likes parents who lie. Enjoy your holiday. 😊

Anonymouse2019 · 20/03/2025 01:44

I will not lie. I've scoured the school's website for a form and can't find it so I'll ask at reception. Thank you everyone!

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