Anyone else hate working, no matter what you’re doing?

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I’m 38 and I’m hitting the horrific reality that I’ve probably got another 30 years of work to do.

No matter what industry I’ve worked in, as soon as I get about 2 years in to a role, I start to despise it and I can’t keep job hopping in to random industries. My CV will look like a patchwork quilt! The kicker is, I don’t even earn well!

Does anyone else feel like this?

Has anyone got out of this rut?

I feel the same

Yep, I am mid 40s, been working for 20+ years and have always hated it. I've been very lucky to have a decent, well paid career, never any issues at work apart from the occasional twatty colleague so I really don't know why I hate it so much. I job hopped a lot when I was younger but I've been at the same place for 9 years now, would love to try something else but can't be arsed looking, let alone applying.

No.
I have had jobs in the past that I didn't enjoy, but I love my current job and am still working at 66, albeit part time.

You sure it’s working and not your current and past jobs?

What specifically do you dislike about it?

I’ve definitely been in jobs that didn't suit me and I didn’t enjoy. I have learned a lot about myself recently when I by moved to a new job that I love.

I don’t have any real issues either, so I don’t know why I feel like this.

I’m currently hating my job with a passion. My pay is decent, and I don’t work Fridays, so it’s proving a real struggle to find anything else.

Yep. And wishing we had stayed in our previous house and we’d be mortgage free by now which may have enabled me to do something different. But no we stupidly bought a bigger house - only 22 years to go on the mortgage - sigh

Honestly, I can’t pin point it. My gut tells me it’s that I have no fulfilment, and that being sat on my arse all day at a computer is a big issue.

But I’m worried if I move to a more productive or physical job, I’ll miss being sat on my arse all day 😂

I can’t win. Maybe I’m depressed. Or delusional. Definitely one of those.

I'm 37 and I feel exactly the same! I just have no motivation for it. It's a perfectly pleasant workplace and the job is very flexible. It's got its stressful times like every job but I really have no good reason to hate working.....but I do!

I wrestled with this feeling a lot over the past year or so and have decided to focus on the fact that I have nice colleagues, the flexibility and focus on the good points.... I'm earning money, paying into my pension, getting out and about and using my brain.

Life is too short to feel miserable. I've come to the realisation that I'd feel this about almost any job and that's ok, focus on what it does for me and work so that I can live my life and do what I actually enjoy.

Yes, I hate it. My job is secure, decently paid and I have hybrid. No issues apart from occasional annoying colleague and office smells. However it feels like such a waste of time. Pretending to care about pointless stuff on a computer, renting hours out of my one precious life to pay for essentials. I'm an artist at heart and would like to work on that.

I think it makes sense to feel like that. I mean, there are so many great things to be doing each day, none of them work. I’m almost at early retirement and can’t wait to spend my time on hobbies, reading, travelling & having fun.

Yep. I’m a carer at heart ( although I’ve never been in any employed caring roles) and if the money wasn’t so dire in healthcare, I think I’d thrive in that environment.

Either that or just be a stay at home wife. Just making nice food, keeping my house clean and my arse toned. None of which I want to do whilst working 40 hours a week.

Could you take a break and have a good think about what you'd like to do next?
Another 30 years hating your job sounds like hell.

im at 40, and personally feel that i have achieved what i wanted to achieve via working, i had the job i loved and while it may have been necessary for the redundancies , personall i feel like im ready to retire and do my own projects now, issue is i need the ££

Ohh @menopausalfart all I do is think about what I want to do next 😂

I feel like this sort of thinking is fine in your 20s, but I’m nearly 40 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up! Definitely not in financial services though. I can tell you that for free.

I can relate to this. I’ve never really had never really experienced job satisfaction. I’ve always just been plodding along. It has always been a means to an end. And if I didn’t have to work I wouldn’t .. and probably spend my time volunteering and doing other things that bring me joy. And unfortunately that is unlikely to ever be a job for me.

Yes, I have never found work to be satisfying. I am 45 and have got out of it at various times by doing further study, going self-employed and being a sahm. Now going for early retirement as we have enough savings thankfully.

I’ve been on a sabbatical for the last few months, had the time of my life. Not really sure how I’m going to manage returning to work. I hate work, and no it’s not the job I just hate working.

Me. I'm 41. Retrained in my 30s and am now 3 years qualified in my new role. I think hate is a strong word, but every second I spend there is a second that I'm never getting back. It gives me no joy. I am the "living the dream" colleague 🤣

That’s me. I retrained and gained qualifications in an area that I don’t like and I have no interest in. Why did I do that!

i can’t risk retraining again in to something worse

Yes, I feel the same. I’m unappreciated, with some lazy colleagues and even lazier managers who are happy for me to pick up other people’s work. I don’t have any passion for the role, feel that I’m constantly missing out on hobbies and time with my children and it makes me incredibly stressed. I don’t have the time or money to retrain into anything more enjoyable (if that exists) or lucrative as I need to pay my bills. It’s not even well paid, so I do all that to rarely have any money spare for fun, holidays, treating the kids to make up for working or to make it more bearable.

It doesn’t help for me that I’m an introvert and love my own company. I hybrid work but going into the office makes me so stressed. I don’t want to listen to my colleagues moaning or gossiping. It frustrates me to hear them say that they’re so glad to have office days as they get cabin fever at home - when I absolutely loathe it. Can’t find anything fully working from home though and definitely not without a pay cut.

I earn well and feel the same. I'm bored to death after 2 years in any role - it doesn't matter what it is.

I'm senior in my industry and trapped - I bounce around THIS industry, because my CV is so good in this industry and this industry alone, I can't escape it, no matter how hard I try! I am also trapped by my salary at this point.

Either that or just be a stay at home wife. Just making nice food, keeping my house clean and my arse toned. None of which I want to do whilst working 40 hours a week.

This is the life for me. I've recently had some time off and DH and I have both loved it.
No, I wouldn't miss the financial independence and autonomy if I left my job and became a stay at home wife! I just want to go to the gym, watch tv, walk the dog, do some cleaning and chores and make a nice dinner 🤷🏼‍♀️

You wait until you're in you're 50s!

I teach in higher education. The only time I actively dislike my job is when I'm on my way to the classroom, wondering if the session will go according to plan. Once I'm actually in there it's fine.