Getting at the end of tether with dd behaviour she's constantly in a combative role and it's hard to exist with her eg when we go in her room it's what do you want.
I don't care
Yesterday was a difficult day for her because we were out all day and she didn't have the right headphones and she had to be around older people for a short while to be fair she's not used too we validated her feelings told her we understand it's hard for her but it's a one off we don't have many older family members and we see them extremely rarely etc.
She was just so unpleasant and hard work all day saying I don't care etc.
She's never been easy but we've had 80%normal time which I think is normal for anyone.
She started her periods about 3 months ago and wants to be in her room all the time it's hard to get her down even to eat. She wants to eat in her room and of we get her down she will dangerously wolf it down and go straight back up.
I've tried love bombing and positive reinforcement etc.
She's not let us hug her for about few years now etc.