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How do u let go

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Alwaysready17 · 17/03/2025 03:34

I met a man 5 years ago and I wasn't expecting anything but possibly friendship. I might add he is 20 years older than me. Well we became friends the best of friends so I thought. I had some issues I had to deal with but I did and one of the major factors in that role was I knew I'd loose him and I feel so deeply in love with him . I didn't jump in bed with him it was 4 months before I finally thought I felt what true love was and I was finally happy . I was really happy. I guess I was able to get to know him or think I did and I never felt so loved so meaningful to a person and I never wanted it to end. I never thought it would end. There were things that happened but we always got through it . Then 3 years in I noticed he started being mean , always had something to do and the things we used to do just stopped and still have. Hed leave me for 1 or 2 weeks and I'd beg and cry for him to please stay because I knew he was seeing someone else. This woman hacked my phone accounts made accounts in my name stolen my pics and put a copy in an app on her phone. The police did nothing but give me a made up report number. I now suffer severe anxiety depression and I have no joy no happiness in my life because I stayed with him he came back after a month and swore he was back but I've noticed the same patterns and he's talking to her if not more. I can't believe he could be with someone that caused me so much hurt that I was suicidal. I love him or the memory of who he was . I just don't know why he has broken something that was so full of love happiness for a girl who only want him for what she can get. She ruinned the love of my life. That one love u wish u find . We had it and I remember telling him Please don't hurt me I don't know if I'll get through it . Once you had a taste of the love you always wanted and true happiness it changes you. You have an emptiness a sadness because u want that back so bad and u try so hard but if the other person doesn't feel it then you will never fill that emptiness. Please leave comment suggestions or advice. I don't know how much longer I can be sad. It's taken a toll on mean . I've lost from 123 to barely 100. I have never loved anyone the way I love him but he rather lie think I don't know her number . Why are certain texts encrypted? Why are photos edited. I hurt so bad because he can hurt me and not think twice. Thank you for your time. Alwaysready 17 to be loved

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Silvertulips · 17/03/2025 03:42

Have you heard of love bombing?

The love you talked about didn’t and will never exist, he tricked you into believing his lies and deceit, he is doing the same to her, he doesn’t care about with of you, he may say he does, he may do the right things, he may force an emotional reaction from you to pity him, he feels trapped, he doesn’t want o choose between you, etc

Hes not capable of love, and I personally would never get into a ‘pick me’ dance with a man.

Wise up, stop fighting over rubbish and keep your dignity.

Alwaysready17 · 17/03/2025 03:48

Well I'm not into the pick me. I've told him to leave . Yes I love him and wish things didn't happen but this is not a competition to me and I appreciate the very blount advice but it's truly not me crying pick me pick me. I would never degrade myself so badly. Thank you

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